Is it normal my father wants me to stay local?

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I'm a 21 y/o female, just graduated from college. My father wants me to stay in the area because all of my family is here and I have a support network. I understand that, and it's not as if I necessarily have a burning desire to move across the country right now. But if I did have the chance or if I wanted to move away to another state for a job or something similar, he would not be happy with it. I have a feeling he would try to guilt me into not moving away. I want to live my life and my dreams but I also don't want to upset and disappoint him, is it normal for him to be this reluctant to let me go?

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Based on 29 votes (18 yes)
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  • dirtybirdy
    8 years ago

    You're a big girl now. It's sweet and all but if you feel you'll be ready, then go. Do not let anyone guilt you. Live your life. Just be smart about it so you're less likely to disappoint. Like save money before you go and research the area, all that grown up type stuff.

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  • MissClaire
    8 years ago

    Get out, I did. Best thing ever, I go back and see all my friends....... and shit, it's a sad state of affairs... not the life I would ever want.

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    If I had to move across country I think my parents would be relieved to see me go far away.
    :-'(

    Sometimes they make me feel unloved and unwanted.

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    • MissClaire
      8 years ago

      Like every other kid ever. Jesus, you are not a unique butterfly. Do what you want.

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      • RoseIsabella
        8 years ago

        I want a question mark instead of period for starters.

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        • MissClaire
          8 years ago

          I didn't ask a question

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          • RoseIsabella
            8 years ago

            Oops. My bad, looked liked you wrote, want do you want, sometimes I can see things scrambled.

            I am a unique butterfly, just like everyone else!

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  • Avant-Garde
    8 years ago

    Shame on him. Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with having your family's support, especially when you're first starting out. But, the guilt tripping would be crossing a line. It says that he doesn't trust you, and would be using you as an emotional crutch.

    You've got to pursue your dreams. Don't bend or ignore your dreams to suit the beliefs of others, unless you don't have a choice. If a good job comes up, that happens to be located elsewhere, and you want it, take it. Prove to your father that you can do this and that moving away doesn't have to mean zero contact with your family.

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    That is a really sweet Dad you have. At the end of the day it is your life and you should do what makes you happy. Your Dad may be upset at first but not out of disappointment but because he will miss you. I have a feeling he would be completely ok with it after some time.

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  • jay_jay2012
    8 years ago

    With fathers they like be very protective so he can still keep a eye on you and if you need him then he dont have to go far

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