Is it normal my father thinks my boyfriend is more intelligent than me?

My boyfriend is in med school on his way to becoming a doctor. I'm in school getting a master's so I can become a teacher.

My father often says stuff like, "I can't believe he's that intelligent", " He must be a genius to be able to become a Dr", "He's so smart" etc. While I sit there and bury my head in my hands.

Why is it that just because I'm going to school for education and he's going for medical, that he's immediately seen as more intelligent than me? I know my Father never outright says, "your boyfriend is so much more intelligent" but it feels the same regardless. I just don't understand this and nothing seems to justify how he perceives us differently. I love kids, my boyfriend loves helping people. I don't think I'd fail medical school if I tried but it's just not my forte. Why doesn't my father see what I see it? I've been with my boyfriend long enough to acknowledge we're on the same page when it comes to intellectualism..

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  • Crvsades

    Why does this worry you that much? Are you competing with your boyfriend? Why the hell does it matter which one of you is smarter?

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  • Mersaphe

    It doesn't mean your boyfriend is more intelligent, just that you have different interests than him. Teachers and doctors are both noble professions.

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  • the apple doesnt fall from the tree

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    • donotmockme

      haha, I liked it better without "far".

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    • *far

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  • thr

    I may be incorrect in my judgment of the situation, which you know better than I.

    It can be easy to be impressed by what your not familiar with yourself, and by those whose capabilities you don't know the extent of.
    I don't know how well your father and your boyfriend know each other, but if they're not that familiar with each other, then that might add to your father's admiration.

    Compared to how well your father knows your boyfriend, he must know you well. That could mean that there's not the same degree of uncertainty to work in favour of an overestimation of your intelligence.

    It could also be that he esteems doctors in a way that is not based on viewing them as normal, but intelligent, people that have learned a lot of stuff about disease.
    I think it natural, as a child, to think of doctors as doctors rather than just people who have learned a bunch of stuff.

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  • green_boogers

    Without knowing any details, it would seem like a reasonable assumption that admission requirements to medical school are much more stringent than a masters in Education.

    A genius? Sorry Dad - probably a near genius.

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  • lolol555

    Ahahaha. No.
    Alright, I can only speak for the UK here, but I doubt it's that different in the US.
    Medical school is far more difficult than a normal masters. Even the qualifications are a bitch - usually three As (or more) in the sciences.

    Your dad has a point. Of course IQ is relative and you can't just say he's smarter for where he is, but he damn well must of been a genius or worked hella hard to get into medical school.

    I don't even see why you're getting jealous about this? Isn't it more normal to be happy your dad thinks highly of your bf?

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  • jimmySky

    commentary
    the preceding post is a fine example of the educational standards in the states today . buyer beware , all certs look alike .

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  • jimmySky

    assuming this post is real , the answer is simple .
    the question is , why should ones heading on an issue regarding intellect contain incorrect grammar ? obviously , a flawed heading is rather silly , wouldnt you agree ? the body is another story altogether .
    i as well as MANY could have pointed this out in the 7th grade . im no genius , never was .
    i am however , a simple carpenter . i am a simple carpenter who can read his ruler properly . i get the ball in the hoop.
    unfortunately , i dont believe you are as bright as you believe yourself to be .
    hit the books , teach . you need it .
    all kidding aside, i would NOT let the intellectual superiority issue be known to the beau .
    he may get turned OFF and leave you .
    however daddy will always love you as a daddy should .
    ps avoid written communication with the good doctor

    jimmy
    bayside , queens

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  • Treehugger29

    Your boyfriend isnt smarter then you, he just knows more of something. You should just ignore your father. You can be glad he's even this praising about him.

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  • alextsang08

    because he's becoming a doctor, he probably is smarter than you, or will be.

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    • Just because he's taking a different path?

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      • alextsang08

        No, it's because the role of a doctor requires more than being a teacher does.

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