Is it normal my ex views my instagram stories

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So my and I ex broke up, he still religiously checks every single one of my Instagram stories even though we don't even follow each other anymore. What does this mean?

Backstory- His parents did not approve of the relationship, they kept pressuring him to marry someone of his own race- he's Chinese and I'm black. Asian culture is really not accepting and parents have the final say. He tried to fight them because he said I was the best girl he's ever dated.

He kept reassuring me that he wanted me in his future. He was depressed, work stress, relationship stress because we fought a lot during the last month of the relationship, then he cheated in the last week of the relationship and he initiated a breakup after I cornered him one last time about the future. He then called me to say that we should think more and asked to see me on my birthday and asked to see me sometime. I found out he cheated and then it all crumbled after that.

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    He might still have feelings for you, but the fact of the matter is that he is a cheater. Besides his parents seem to have him under their thumbs.

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  • Tealights
    6 years ago

    He has feelings for you.

    Also, please don't think of this as a "guy thing," as another user loosely suggested. There are men who are focused, know what to do, and will not cheat. Not all adult men are confused, can't handle their emotions, or stand up for themselves. Your ex is just an example of what men you should avoid.

    Anyway, you probably still have feelings for your ex as well, despite the cheating. That's okay, because it'll pass eventually if you allow it to. Understand that with a good man, shit wont go left anymore, everything will feel right 90% of time.

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  • Hotdogsaregross
    6 years ago

    Normal. I have done that with a ex before.

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  • Justmehere
    6 years ago

    I think it's normal and common..Exes will check any available social media for what you're saying, if you're slamming them, or in a new relationship..It's human curiosity. We need to know.

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  • rayb12
    6 years ago

    He wants to look at ur but

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  • Boojum
    6 years ago

    He's a guy, and therefore he probably really hasn't got a clue what he wants, what he feels, and how he can reconcile the social pressure he's under with his needs.

    I don't want it to sound like I'm trying to excuse his cheating, but it's possible he did that because he was trying to figure out just how important you were to him. A dumbass way to do it, but hey... he's a guy.

    It sounds like he's still hung up on you. As long as all he's doing is checking out your Instagram, how is that harming you? It's not great for him, since he should be moving on, but that's not your problem, is it?

    If he contacts you again, I think you should think long and hard about whether you want to do that. Frankly, I think you'd be stupid to get back with him. He decided in the end that playing the role of a dutiful little drone son was more important to him than his personal preferences and desires. He might struggle to overcome that conditioning, but it's always going to remain a part of him, and that would always create tensions between you. Relationships are difficult enough without that having to deal with that sort of shit.

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  • bob7
    6 years ago

    he loves you

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