Is it normal my ex keeps acting nicer each time we break up?

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My ex and I have dated twice, both times I initiated it and ended it. We had problems each time, but I noticed lately that she's acting more and more amicable. The first time we broke up, there were a bunch of reasons for it, but one of the big issues at the time was a lack of physical intimacy, she was extremely shy, I stole her first kiss and she was terrified to go beyond the that. After the break up we remained friends and she very quickly began acting much more intimate, and started becoming more sexual than I'd expected, (though still nothing that could result in pregnancy) Eventually we started dating again this time for more than a year.
About 2 months ago I broke up with her due to our extremely clashing personalities. She has a lot of personality quirks that dealing with finally wore me down, namely she refused to talk about any subject that didn't fit her personal interests and would get angry over almost anything, and she just didn't enjoy talking about most things. After the break up again we've remained friends and lately I've noticed her personality seems to be changing, I've been able to talk to her about more subjects, even politics for a while, and she despises politics, she used to shut down such conversations.

So I guess my question is, is it normal she seems to keep changing each time we break up, Is she trying to get back together with me, or do we just get along better as friends than as boyfriend and girlfriend?

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  • Tealights
    8 years ago

    What she's doing is common in both men and women, but sad.

    Basically, instead of her realizing you two aren't a good match, she feels flawed that she couldn't be the woman you expected her to be. So now she's forcing herself to change. What she's doing is wrong, because acceptance is a BIG part of a happy relationship. If someone can't accept you, then they're simply aren't worth being in a relationship with or only good for friendship, but she doesn't get that yet.

    Plus, the desperate changes she's making are temporary, and only meant to pull you back into the relationship. Overtime it'll fade, and you both will be right back where you started. Eventually, you may need to talk about her changes and tell her she's fine as who she is, and that you two are just better as friends. Or end the friendship if she doesn't stop pinning after you.

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  • PlebolaVirus
    8 years ago

    Well then, buy a boat and sail the Caribbean with her.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I wasn't going to comment on this but my curiosity got the better of me, so I have to ask, Why do you suggest we sail the Caribbean?

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      • 53739
        8 years ago

        there is a member here who goes by the name "thegypsysailor" and he is quite (in)famous around this site because he is known to be 69 years old with a wife who is 42 years younger than him, and together they spend their time on a luxury yacht sailing the Caribbean ocean.

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  • Aderly
    8 years ago

    i think your better as friends , and it's good that you can still be friends ...

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  • deepdankstickygoo
    8 years ago

    She sounds like an unsuitable fit for you romantically....or she is just a bitch. But it seems like you two are better off as friends. Better to end it as friends than to keep getting together and breaking up like a bunch of dumb idiots and then start hating each other.

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