Is it normal my ex is harrasing me hook up again?

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My Ex is harassing me about getting back together. I kind of find it annoying. There are a few problems and part of which has to do with the dynamics of the relationship.

We are both bottoms and I know they hate being a top and not very good at trying be a TOP. However when I explained this to them I dont think they got it and they are just coming off as super desperate. Its really kind of annoying.

This person doesn't know how to understand the difference between being a top and bottom vs being a submissive or a dominant personality. However they dont seem to understand the terms. A lot of my other adult friends understand but like these are people who are way older like 30-40 year olds and are divorced or already lost their virginity. I am a Virgin too but I tend to be more mature and aware than a lot of people my age are.

Whats more annoying is they living with their mom, are on SSI and have no motivation to better their situation. When we did date they would bring their mom everywhere and I just cant deal with that. Im 22, I dont want someones mother around all the time. Along with that I also very private, proper and reserved so if I kiss someone I not going to do it in-front of their parents(Since its improper) or people in general(Since it makes me uncomfortable).

In fact I have issues about getting married since that means ill have to kiss a partner in front of my mom and dad and that is just horrible indecent in my opinion. I tend to be one of those people who only willing to do things behind close doors, and while I have a ton of kinks and fetishes I dont do indecent things in front of other people.

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  • LittleGirlMeatHookSodomized
    8 years ago

    "top and bottom vs being a submissive or a dominant personality" In this context what does the former mean and how does it relate to the ladder?

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    • somethingrecognisable
      8 years ago

      it relates to the ladder because you have to climb ontop of someone hahah see what i did there hahaha..
      ill go away now

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Top and bottom - If you have your back to the bed, or if you are on top of the other person in bed

      Submissive/Dominant: Are personality traits and have to do with how much control you have over the person. You can be a submissive who is willing to top, or a submissive bottom, or a Dominant bottom still giving orders.

      I am a

      Bottom/
      Submissive/Dom

      I can switch between Dominant or Submissive as a role depending

      In general my personality tends to be Passive but controlling.

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      • LittleGirlMeatHookSodomized
        8 years ago

        You've got "hook up" all these positions which I've done them all and BTW I'm top/dom but at the same time have kinks and fetishes yet you are a Virgin Ooooook.

        Excluding the above move on and stop wasting your life thinking about it. Some bitches I've fucked before got annoying but couldn't take a hint so I block them with this app called "dead2me" you put them in the grave yard and they are blocked, the app will intercept and immediately delete the log file/text. Use it and forget about them

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          8 years ago

          Well I did move on and I thought they were fine being friends but now they are harassing me. They know where I live too so this is a real nuisance.

          Yes, you dont have to be experienced to know what you're into. Someone can know they are gay without dating someone of the same sex. They just know they have a desire to be with the same sex and chase that. Most of my desires fall under BDSM. Many of my kinks dont really involve sex either, and many are more about control exchange and little fetishes I have. Like I really love leather, and British accents for example.

          Along with that I actually had to go out of my way to study sexuality and human emotion. So I know a lot more than I should know. The reason I had to study it was that I did not understand emotions or process emotional/sexual intimacy like most normal humans do. So I had to understand how it works on my own.

          For this reason I know a lot about sexuality, sexual positions, dynamics, relationships problems, power dynamics and basically everything to do with human interaction. I will say that my specialty falls under abnormal psychology thought(crazy people), sociology(group dynamics), and sexual development and relationship, I could probobly study more when dealing with children and neurological problems overall.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    8 years ago

    Kick the habit.

    no good can come of this.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I dont understand what habit you are talking about. I dont think you read the post at all.

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      • Terence_the_viking
        8 years ago

        oops auto correct that was supposed to be prick

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      • GuitarHero1994
        8 years ago

        girls lie so much wow

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          8 years ago

          You are making irrelevant comments about nothing at this point.

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  • Doktor_Hildred_Von_Steinmann
    8 years ago

    You're making this way to complicated than it needs to be.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Im not, this person is. I already explained why I dont want to date anymore.

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  • SuMaFTW
    8 years ago

    If he is harassing you, get a restraining order on him. This does not sound like a healthy relationship, so put a decisive end to it.

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  • TheDentist
    8 years ago

    Just move houses before he rapes you, kills you, and makes a couch out of your skin.

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