Is it normal my boyfriend won't tell his friends that he told me he loves me?

I think a lot of it depends on how old he is. If he's a 40 year old guy he should be well adjusted enough to admit when he loves a woman. A lot of young guys just aren't there yet. It's possibly part immaturity, they don't want their friends to think they're whipped or stupid or whatever, and part fear, loving someone can be really scary, it can feel like giving up a part of yourself. It doesn't make it less hurtful when he won't declare for you. It sucks to feel like someone's secret. And it DOES make it feel less genuine when he won't cop to it. It's okay to be a little mad, but make sure you listen to his reasoning and let him know why it pissed you off! Good luck! <3

If you're taking his phone and thongs of that nature, you two are still crazy young. For men, if the question isn't asked normally then we don't answer. You have the type that doesn't feel he needs to prove something by telling everyone everything. He told you, and it's you he loves, what the FUCK does Brian and Jake have to do with anything?

Actions speak louder than words, as they say.

Some guys have a really hard time expressing their feelings like this. Being a girl, it's probably not something that you can understand, but it's normal.

Let him show you that he loves you in his own way, which might not be a blanket text proclamation to all his friends.

why does he have to tell his friends? this is a personal matter.

be grateful you have a guy who loves you and I'm assuming he's a good catch.

there's many abusive losers in the world, if you found a good guy, treat him right and make sure he does the same.

No it's not normal. If he really does love you he wouldn't be ashamed to tell !!

You shouldn't break up with him over this. The reason he hasn't told his friends is because guys aren't usually as emotional as girls, especially when with other guys. His friends have probably never been in love, so they wouldn't understand. They'd probably think he's stupid. If he told you he loves you, then I'm sure he means it, and he doesn't have to tell the entire world to prove it.

I agree with MilleBornes.

Do you think that by him telling his friends, thats his way of confirming its true?

For younger guys they can feel embarrassed and less manly to their friends about being in love. It's completely normal. Why do you need his friends to know? Shouldn't he just love you and treat you right? Sounds like you're being a bit immature and controlling.

I wouldn't trust this guy.

He don't love you

You should give him another chance. I think was really sorry he didn't tell anyone about it. He was probably afraid something might happen. You should consider yourself lucky to have a boyfriend like him. Don't worry if he doesn't tell anyone. Like 'lufa' said, it's a personal matter. If he apologized, forgive him!

I'm a human sexuality educator.

Some sociologists believe that men and women treat relationships differently. A prime example, women *tend* to seek approval from friends and family for the man she's seeing. Men are *more likely* to go their own way, regardless of their friends' or family's opinions.

It's understandable that you want to tell the whole world that you're in love, but I personally wouldn't do that. I'm not saying that because I'm a man, I'm saying that because relationships are meant to say something special for the people in it. As a gay man, so many people love to criticize my relationships whenever I walk down the street, for something as simple as holding hands with another man... as if I formed this bond with someone I love and trust to piss off the public. (Seriously, straight couples don't know how easy they have it, when they do something as simple as holding hands or kissing in public.)

My point is, unless there is something happening that needs serious immediate attention (abuse, self-harm, addiction), then it's really no one's business what you do in your relationships. Trust me, it will really benefit you in the long run to keep other people's opinions out of it. Promoting your relationship to others doesn't really do anything positive. It might please or upset your parents, it might make others jealous or insecure because you have something they don't have (or for many LGBTQ youth, afraid to have), but all of these are superficial reasons. Some people believe publicity is romantic, which I can understand. But most of the time it's just to say, "Look what I have? Aren't I awesome?" If you guys ever do something with each other in public, let the moment be between you two, don't ever play to an audience, because that's not what love is about... unless you want your name in everyone's whore-mouth. Trust me. It's not worth the gossip.