Is it normal my boyfriend is this disgusting

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three months. We've been friends for years, but as soon as we started dating things kept getting weirder and weirder. At first I would catch him picking his nose and eating it, eating scabs and things like that. I thought it was just a guy thing but it really grossed me out. Then I found out that he NEVER washes his hands EVER. Even after he poops. I ask him if he did and he says yes, but I can smell that he didn't, and I see it under his nails. I brushed it off as a guy thing, because I've never been with a guy before. THEN, he recently moved into my moms house with me. I thought things were going alright for the first week, but now he's made the biggest most disgusting mess of my room, and the livingroom. My carpet has disgusting stains from fast food, where you can SEE the carpet. He also smells HORRIBLE. I've never met another human that smelled so bad, Even after he showers. He's made my bed smell just like it, so I try to make him sleep in the livingroom, but he refuses to. I can't get him to leave my room because all he does is watch TV and jack off and eat fast food in MY bed. He only wears one pair of clothes even though he brought this GIANT suitcase to my house(full of clothes, I checked), and He's never bought me anything. My bank account was full until we started dating, now its completely empty and I can hardly get by. He'll ask if I want Mcdonlds, and I'd agree. We'd finish ordering, and then tell me he has no money, and forces me to pay. He also does this with gas in his car. His personality isn't horrible but he's very immature. He won't even have sex with me, he flat out says no when I ask. He won't even give a reason. He also grabs my boobs and squeezes them Really hard , and when I tell him to stop because it hurts, he does, but then he just does it again in the next hour or day. He will not do anything unless I tell him(even then he does it completely half assed or less), and he flat out ignores my mom pretty much. I could go on, and I guess this isn't normal, but I don't know how NOT normal it is? Should I leave him?

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Comments ( 28 )
  • kingofcarrotflowers

    Sounds like you deserve someone who actually treats you with respect, I know you said he had good qualities and even putting aside the hygiene issues ( which is a big thing to put aside when it's to that extent) the issues with grabbing and squeezing your boobs to the point of pain when he feels like is a disturbing thing to keep on doing.

    He sounds like one of those people who's after a carer rather than an equal partner, seems to get what he can from you, selfish and sex is a big part of a relationship to just take it completely off the table like that isn't fair on you

    This doesn't sound like a relationship at all, I'd run, find someone nice

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  • If his hygiene is so poor why would you want to sleep with him

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  • Crusades_

    The fact that you accept someone with that many flaws, leads me to think you have a lot of flaws yourself. I mean what the fuck! My stomach literally turned upside down reading your post...

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  • bazzini

    Good god! You're dating a kid or are infected with a parasite. Either way, and as hard as it may feel emotionally to do, you need to get rid of him, even if it means he becomes homeless. People like him survive because people like you are kind enough to allow him to leech and suck money and resources from. GET RID OF HIM!

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  • Ellenna

    What are you doing with this smelly waste of space?

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  • Avant-Garde

    What are you thinking girl?! Kick him out and stop dating him. You should have considered leaving him the first time you saw him eat his boogers and scabs. The should have left him when you found out that he doesn't wash his hands. You need to grow a backbone. You need to get higher standards when it comes to dating.

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  • Parky_Parker

    That is the most disgusting thing I've read all week. -_-

    I wouldn't even give him a chance whatsoever. I feel repulsed just reading and imaging that. Baaaa!!! (Hank Hill)

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  • shuggy-chan

    sounds like he will be single soon

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  • valisque

    There's a word we use for people like that.. What was it? Oh yeah. Leaches.

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  • Faceless

    Thats what you get for loving Prince Fat Ass.

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  • sexysonofsam

    Wait until he sleeps, take some rope and tie him to the bed, take a scrubbing brush, some disinfectant (the strong type they use in hospitals) and scrub the living shit out of him.

    I suggest that you also keep one of his socks handy because he is going to scream like a little girl when you start scrubbing him, take the sock and shove it in his filthy mouth.

    After scrubbing him nice and clean, tell him he either keeps himself and your house in this state or he can fuck off!

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  • green_boogers

    Some people have trouble getting out of relationships. You are one of them.

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  • KeepsakeDoll

    Just dump the slob.

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  • Negima93

    He sounds like my ex. I wonder if it's the same person

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  • TareBear20

    If you're living with mom still, then your most likely too young for that type of commitment anyway. He sounds like a real prize. Be rid of him and find yourself someone who actually cares about themselves and you.

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  • tripw7

    Tell him that you need him to leave your home in 24 hours and stick to it. You deserve better than this moocher. Call police if necessary and protect your Mom as he may think he deserves the home as well. Get going!

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  • wistfulmaiden

    Youre not married, so you can still leave him with relative ease.
    btw if he doesn't want sex he is NOT NORMAL period even the meanses for of male with a heartbeat and a penis wants sex.

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  • AVSF

    So not normal. You lost me with not having sex. Pretty sure you're the ONLY girl who could find this guy attractive, inside or out, so who else could he be banging? Run for your life.

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  • jenyouflex

    You haven't given us a single reason to see why you are still with this guy, so do yourself a favor and go through pros and cons of being with him. Obviously this is a huge problem, but I don't know about the good times you two have had, what you see in him, what you have in common, your plans for the future, etc. You did mention you've been good friends for a while. Now I know this kind of lazy behavior can happen to anyone, and if he doesn't listen to you, at some point if he doesn't, then yes he has to leave. I personally think it was a mistake to let him move in - he needs to be responsible for himself because he doesn't seem to have proven he can do that yet, so I'm not surprised he doesn't seem to be providing for you either. I think it's probably stress that's keeping him down, so if you're intent on staying with this guy, I suggest you encourage him optimistically to improve himself and help him too. Maybe make him some healthy meals and make the bed, and try to look positive. This relationship needs a LOT of fixing, but I think the only way that will happen will involve a good deal of patience. Good luck.

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  • Rusty-Rider

    Sounds like my ex.
    Girls can be pigs too.

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  • Reshirina

    what he needs to do is get a job so he can work off the depts. that he owes you and if he doesn't it's time for the divorce papers and don't worry and just like what men would say theirs plenty of fish in the sea and men think they know from experience when theirs only one.

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  • Joyful

    is this actually a serious post?

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  • Nokiot9

    Wow that guy sounds like an absolute P-I-G. I gagged reading this. If he showers every day and still reeks he probably has a glandular problem of some kind. Tell him to change his clothes, wash himself, start putting out, get a job, or get lost. He sounds like a total slob freeloader. He isn't fucking you, isn't paying for ANYTHING, lives in your moms house lol, and ontop of that he stinks like shit. Do you have some kind of crazy self esteem problem? What are u doing with a guy like this?

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  • ChocolatePrincess

    DUMP HIM!!!!!!!! PLEASEEEEEEEE but if you don't you will have to live in a box on the side of the street after he sucks you dry like a damn parasite!

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  • ucipher8

    what the hell is wrong with you and why were you even attracted to him the first place? If i knew you as a friend, id stop talking to you just because of him.

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  • It is obvious what is wrong with him, but what is wrong with you?
    Any one of those things would be a deal breaker for most people? Why would you even need to ask if this is normal or ok behavior.
    You are hurting both of you for not kicking him out. You don't need to put up with this and he needs to learn it is not acceptable to be that way.
    He should be homeless so he can learn what happens to lazy slobs.

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  • GreyWulfen

    Run. Fast.
    No, really, get away from him, he is just abusing you.

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  • davesumba

    lol

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