Is it normal my boyfriend is obsessed with trying to impress his father
It's the absolute saddest thing. My boyfriend has done really well for himself, he's studying for his masters right now, and his piece of shit dad has never been there. Never showed up for any graduation or birthday, rarely showed up on a holiday, just absolute garbage. Yet my bf tries so damn hard to please this awful man. He lends him money anytime he asks, just to feed his alcoholism, and tries to tell him about every achievement or good thing in his life. When I use my bf's phone I always check his text messages with his dad, he sends him pictures of us, anytime he's in the news or is getting recognition for sports, he sends him his grades, everything my boyfriend could be proud of he sends to his father. And. Gets. No. Replies. Yet he still tries.
I've put up with this for about two years now, and I finally can't take it anymore. It disgusts me how anyone could treat him that way, he's such a good guy. We saw his dad a week ago, they both got drunk and his dad swung at him and my boyfriend just took it. Then he swung again, and again, and again, till my bf just collapsed. He didn't even try to fight back. I don't know what to do, I pepper sprayed him and haven't talked to or seen him since. Why is he so hung up on making this shit bag proud?