Is it normal my boyfriend is acting like this

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Ok. So me and my bf have been in a relationship for almost 4yrs . I'm 23 and he is 26. It's started of amazing. We did things together. We spent every moment we could together. We shared everything. But things between us have become really tense. He is so distant and just doesn't seem to care about me. About 2yrs ago we had a massive fight over a msg I found to his ex on fb, he claimed the date was wrong (?) i actually left for a while, during that time he was calling me again and again constantly telling me he would never do that he truly loves me. I honestly thought he was sincare but truth is he was changing all my passwords for my fb and email(as. well as his). I ended up taking him back. Now when ever I confront him about it he admits to doing it but won't give me my password. I recently started another fb with a false name. And I was absolutely sickened to find that he had delete our relationship status and deleted my original fb from his and he had added hundreds of girls(I mean hundreds). And he also had a fake fb under a celebs name where he was chatting to these girls (things like "ur so goreguse" "and pretty" ect. I know I shouldn't have but I was concern so I snooped on his laptop and found that he spends 2-3 hours a night looking at pictures of these girls.
He is always accusing me of cheating on him and saying that I'm on chat sites, this seems shady as I have never given him any reason to even think I would do tht.
I no he has cheated on pass gfs, he always tells me that he loves me and would never cheat. But I don't know if I can trust him any more. Their are so many hours tht he is unaccounted for and I can't contacted him he always says he was busy with mates or he left his phone in the car and tht I'm just being crazy. Since confronting him about all this he has put password on our laptop on his 2 phones, his emails and his fbs (I no he has more than one). I dnt no what to do any more I'm starting to question our entire relationship. I'm not a very insecure person but I can't help it but feel insecure about his feelings towards me. Does anyone have any advice

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  • (s)aint
    9 years ago | pl

    Eh.
    1) He has cheated in the past, you wont be any different.
    2) The signs are right there, have some bloody self- respect and dump the retard.
    3) You don't even have to fucking confront him, just get up and leave.

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    • Evermore87
      9 years ago

      This is the best answer so far! 100% agree

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    • RoseIsabella
      9 years ago

      Amen to that!

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  • modernism
    9 years ago

    Dump him. He's a possessive, controlling, cheating bastard. Don't trust him. He shouldn't make you feel like you're in the wrong when he's the one holding your FB password, chatting with plenty of other girls, and staring (while probably flapping away at) these girls pictures.

    He's not open with you, and that only means that there is something that he wants to hide.

    (s)aint's got it right. You deserve better. Leave.

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  • KeepsakeDoll
    9 years ago

    Dump him.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Please tell me why you are still with this person!
    :-/

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  • ilovetoiletrolls
    9 years ago

    This guy is a PLAYA. Leave him.

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  • kitkat4me
    9 years ago

    He is cheating, confront him. Those are all red flags you shouldn't ignore

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    • Unhappygilmore:(
      9 years ago

      How do I confront him. When he thinks I'm just acting crazy?

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  • hanover
    8 years ago

    Im gonna make a new version of facebook called " stalkerbook". Its gonna be just like facebook in every way.

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  • TareBear20
    9 years ago

    That really sucks. I'm sorry your going through something so shitty. Don't waste your time looking for answers on a forum. You need to muster up the courage to tell him how you've been feeling. Has it ever occurred to you that you may be entirely wrong and are just paranoid. Anxiety can play some crazy mind games on you, if you can't distinguish the difference. I can tell by your post that you are desperate to make this work. You love him and don't want to let go, but it's not fair to him to keep it bottled up inside and eventually explode. Communication is key and just because he's adding girls and looking at their photos, does not mean he has any intention of cheating on you. Us girls do the same shit without realizing it, because they is nothing wrong about finding other people attractive or being friends with people of the same gender. If you want this to work, you have to sit him down and have a serious talk.

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  • bazzini
    9 years ago

    He doesn't respect you and with you being insecure he is not the right kind of guy for you. Once a cheater or liar has done the sin, trust is very hard to regain....especially if he's continuously doing it. The only person that will ensure you are happy is you and so you have to stick up for yourself. He doesn't care what you think, he doesn't respect you as an equal and he obviously doesn't trust you because he knows how untrustworthy he is so why should you be any different right? He is just as insecure, it's just that he'll never admit it and you will likely find a reason to stay with him. Posting this question is the first step. Please get out of this relationship or he will control your life FOREVER.

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  • cumm_guzzlah
    9 years ago

    he needs more blowjobs to be happy.. he's hoping that between different girls he can accumulate enough blowjobs. step up to the plate, gf, if you don't want him looking to get sucked elsewhere.

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  • sandraasiilva
    9 years ago

    Dump him, you don't even need to give him a justification

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    You lay it down. Surprise him one day and grab his phones, say if he doesn't unlock them ur gonna close the kitchen, say his behavior makes u think he has a guilty conscience.

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  • pastor_of_muppets
    9 years ago

    Contact his ex and ask her if the two of them have been with each other recently.. if she says no, you just say: "okay good. just trying to contact some of the girls he might have likely cheated on me with because I have Aids and just wanna let them know they should get tested to be safe"

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  • handsignals
    9 years ago

    FaceBook making the world a better place.

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