Is it normal my boyfriend doesn't and never will prefer me over his friends?

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So me and my boyfriend are together are together for almost a year now, and I always feel like I don't even am half as important to him as his friends. So I just asked him and he said ofcourse you aren't, I know them since I was little. I understand this completely, he knows me for only a year and he spend a long time of his life with his friends, but it's just the way he znsxered my question that seems not okay. I asked him if I will EVER be as important as them, he told me he doesn't know, maybe not...

There's also this weird thing that he can go on a trip with 4 of his friends for 10 days, but when it comes to me, he thinks a trip of 3 days with me is too long. I mean, there are couples who go on vacation for 2 weeks together. Also he sees his friends at leat 4 times a week, but seeing me 2 times a week is a maximum. Also seeing me 2 days in a row is not okay.

When there's something wrong, I talk to him, try to understand him and make him feel better, I show him how much I love him and how important he is to me, ... I do everytjing just for him, to make him happy, to mean something, but it feels like it means nothing. But he can't stop talking about how amazing hi friends are. Oh and he ever talks about me when he's with his friends, we were 7 months together when he told them he was in a relationship. Is this normal how he acts?

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  • emi.l.y
    11 years ago

    He reeeeallly dosnt deserve yoo :/ idk yoo but he dosnt sound like he deserves anyone :( I'm sorry for yoor relationship being so bad, but yeah dump him !

    Good luck x <3

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  • shuggy-chan
    11 years ago

    i dont see this lasting longer then a year, get out now

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  • Mason556
    11 years ago

    Show your bf this dude she has a magical devise called your gonna fuck up you relation ship and it will happen soon if you don't tell your friends to fuck off

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  • jitterbug66
    11 years ago

    He must be gay or something. If I had a girlfriend I wouldn't think 3 days with her is too long.

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  • Curious-trans
    7 years ago

    Yea he sounds like a bad boyfreind

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  • pancakesorwaffles
    10 years ago

    Wtf why u with him

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  • Lynxikat
    11 years ago

    What is it with decent chicks hooking up with douchebag guys?! The stereotype that "all chicks like douchebags for boyfriends and nice guys will always finish last no matter what" constantly gets truer every day :'(

    Leave this jerk. You should be just as important to him as his friends. Maybe not more important, but just as important. He's a DOUCHE. DUMP his sorry ass.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    you make the rules about contact now, its your turn, say youd rather do something else than see him

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  • NoraBaker
    11 years ago

    If you are also author of the other boyfriend story I just commented on, I *really* think there are better guys for you out there. If you are not the same person, I think the same.

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    • PrettyLies
      11 years ago

      Yes I am... Thanks for your comment :), now I know now I'm not just exaggerating and I'm really aware I HAVE TO end this relationship sooner or later...

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      • NoraBaker
        11 years ago

        Better sooner than later. ;)

        I know how hard it is to break up with someone you love so much yet keeps treating you badly. The truth is you already knew all of this wasn't right even before you posted anything. What you are lacking is the courage and strength to actually take the step. I can't do it for you, nor can anyone else. It's gotta be you. Focus on how you would like to be treated and what you dream and expect from a relationship. If it's not being met, then it's wrong and you should stick to nothing until you can have it all. Or something along these lines. Respect yourself, because that kid ain't! :/

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