Is it normal my boyfriend does something like this to me? :/

A few weeks ago, I spent less than 4 hours with my boyfriend. The next day, 2 of my friends wanted to spend the evening together with me and my boyfriend (they're friends of both of us), but it's in the city where we all study so it takes almost 2 hours for me to get there (and I would have to spend the night in that city).
I have to take two trains to get there, one train for 35 minutes and the other for an hour. So I was on the first train when I got a message from my friend, she told me something happened and she couldn't be there anymore, so the other friend texted me that she also wouldn't go so me and my bf could spend the evening just the 2 of us. But I was already waiting for me second train when I saw that message.
So I called my boyfriend, told him the other girls couldn't go anymore, that I already was waiting for the 2nd train BUT he told me 'I'm sorry then I don't want to do something alone with you cause I already saw you yesterday', and I was disappointed :s so I told him if I would go home I would have packed my bag to sleep at his place and spend 35 minutes on the train, TWICE, just for nothing. He said 'so what, just go home, you can ride the train for free.' I was disappointed. But he just wanted to drink something with all of us together and didn't feel like having a romantic evening with me.
So I told him the other girl had to go babysitting with her little nephew and she would go to the movies with him (I couldn't go with her because I didn't have enough money), and suddenly he said: 'okay then I'll maybe call her to go to the movies together'. WTF???? So he lets me spend 70 minutes on a train (even when I told him I had to wait 2 hours for the train back home :/) because he wants to go out with a group of people, but then calls another girl to go to the movies with her, and that's okay. Oh and she asked me to go with, not him, so he wasn't invited but just asked if he could go in my place. Just because he saw me yesterday and it was 2 days since he saw that other girl. :/ Is this normal? Sorry for the long post!

Btw, things like this happen a lot, but small things. Like I saw him thursday and he promised me we'd see each other after school monay, but when I call him he sais, I'm sorry I had a busy weekend and don't feel like seeing you today.
And he asked me for some kind of prom, 2 days later he says okay I don't like to take you to the prom, it's a little too early (we're together for 1 year -.-), then he asks me again and says he had no idea why he said it was a bad idea the last time. But 3 days before the prom he said: "okay eventually I think it's a bad idea to take you to prom with me", so I didn't go, without knowing the exact reason why...

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Comments ( 18 )
  • NoraBaker

    ♫ Hit the road Jack, and don't you come back no more, no more, no more! ♫ Girl, that man's gotta go! A month ago!!!

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    • VioletTrees

      I NEED to be able to add a dance number to this comment.

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      • NoraBaker

        Well, you are the art director... you have my go!

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  • chatter289

    prior to prom? honey, you got the answer right there, a year or no year, goodfuckingbye to him! Thing is, if he did this to you now and you forgave him he will then adjust to you forgiving him for everything, trust me, i know from experience and it didng go down well, and if youre wanting to justify it as your relationship being 'different', yes ALL relationships are different, but humans are the same, predicatable irrational idiots that we are and never tend to really change.

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  • computer says no *cough*

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    • Gleadless

      If only I could like this more than once ;u;

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  • everlily76

    in all fairness you were a fool but he sounds like a dickhead, leave him on his own like he deserves. and give him a slap in the face from me.

    all the best x

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  • RaiieannaDaurken

    Honey, I'm sorry to tell you, but going through years of abuse, which led to years of therapy, this guy sounds like he's only one step down from a manipulator. He sounds like the type of control freak who will cheat on you in front of your face while he orders you to the kitchen to cook for the two of them. Honey, there is better out there. And if you can't find it yet...you have friends! Go out, watch movies, get mani/pedis, eat out, sing karaoke (badly, if you're like me), join a gym membership...find ways to enjoy yourself. Don't ever let anyone make you feel unimportant, unappreciated, worthless or abused. Get out before it gets bad. <3 hugs <3

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  • tom132

    Im a guy and reading this even kind of upset me. He should be a hell out alot more considirate to you. Seems like he doesnt know to treat u all that well. Fo realz tho, i hope u end that. Im pretty sure u deserve a better guy than that.

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  • SceedarMoon

    grow a back bone lady! dont let anyone treat you like this. leaavvvvee him already!

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  • tehfoxyfire

    Why??? Just why do you allow this?

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  • You are a fool. Sorry

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  • emi.l.y

    What a fucking dick! Please, leave him! He's a sick individual that dosnt deserve yoo! (can yoo tell iv had bad history with guys yet? Haha) kick him in the shin also ! (:

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  • Fucktheworlddd69

    Wow thats fucked up. Talk to him about it & say listen i really dont like how u act sometimes im your girl and you treat me like a friend. Say something like that , just let him know its bothering you , & if he tries to change than good! But if he dosent than dump his ass.

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  • Darkoil

    Are you a door mat?

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  • Mando

    You could just be blunt and direct with him about how you expect to be treated- but I'd say your choice is likely to ditch him now or to keep him around as a casual and convenient bf, if not an appreciative and respectful one, and then ditch him later when you've met a few other prospects.

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  • KatieLiz

    Your boyfriend is a raging hardon

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  • Lynxikat

    Okay, the fact that he can't make up his mind whether or not he wants to take his own girlfriend to a prom should be a lightbulb moment right there that you need to get out of that relationship.

    AND that he doesn't want to spend time alone with you BUT he has no problem going to the movies ALONE with SOMEONE ELSE? Run. Run as far away as you can.

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