Is it normal my boyfriend beat me because he thinks i'm cheating on him?

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Yesterday when I came home from my friend's place, my boyfriend came down the stairs and started shouting at me and saying I was out with another guy, which I wasn't. He didn't believe me and started punching me across my face and then my body. He then carried me to the bedroom, closed all the windows, took away my stuff including my phone and wallet, locked the bedroom doors and left.

He came back later that night and asked me to have sex with him which kind of shocked me. Why would he beat me up and then want to have sex with me?? I didn't want to do it but he said he would beat me up again so I had to force myself to do it.

He is at work now and I don't know what to do. How do I prove him that I'm not cheating? How do I make him stop beating me and forcing to have sex with him? Before all this, he was a very nice and loving guy and I do love him very much. I'm very confused and I don't know what to do.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Why bother trying to get him to believe you aren't cheating? You should be way too busy packing your shit and getting as far away from this guy as you can get.
    If I were you, I wouldn't even leave a note. Change your phone number and NEVER speak to him again.
    Nobody with any self respect would allow anyone to treat them like that, and then give them a chance to do it again!
    Leave, leave NOW!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Because as I said above, I think we can talk this through and solve it just like we have with the different issues we have had before. Besides I don't have anywhere to go. I couldn't just run away like that without having a place to go. We have two daughters and I wouldn't leave them with him so that makes leaving even more complicated.

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      • thegypsysailor
        8 years ago

        You sound like every single abused spouse we've ever heard speak. Next you'll be blaming yourself.
        "Oh, he's not really that bad...."
        BULLSHIT! Stop making excuses for him; he's a fucking MONSTER and you are letting him teach your kids to be monsters.
        There are plenty of places for women like you to go, with their kids. But from all your replies it's apparent you are going to hang in there until the asshole kills you or one of your children. YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN ARE IN DANGER.
        Get out before it's too late.

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    CALL THE POLICE!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I can't he took away my phone

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      • any.name
        8 years ago

        skype

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  • Sara0303
    7 years ago

    Leave him. He will never stop hurting you

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  • Tybo626
    8 years ago

    Even if you still love him you have to leave there have been many cases where abusive spouses and boyfriends end up killing their kids or wives you have to make this sacrifice for the sake of your children and yourself your love for that man should never put them in danger

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  • sexysonofsam
    8 years ago

    Your boyfriend is an arsehole, leave him immediately, he is going to mind fuck you and you will start believing that you are worthless!

    Fuck him and all his insecurities, take your shit and move out today!

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    That is abusive. I will never understand how someone can love someone who hurts them.
    Personally I would take a hammer to his face while he sleeps. Anyway I recommend leaving. Whether you kill him or call the police is up to you, but read up on abusive relationships. Most abusers act nice most the time and don't become abusive until the relationship has evolved. That's how they trap you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      It's not that simple. Just because he's abusive doesn't mean he's a bad unlovable person. Of course there's something wrong with him but it's not like it can't be fixed. We've been through a lot and I think we could maybe talk this through and solve this as well.

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      • [Old Memory]
        8 years ago

        Nobody can fix another person. People can sometimes change their own behavior, but that too is rare and only happens when the person realizes they have the problem.
        He defiantly wont have that epithany if you stay with him, because you are showing him he will not have consequences for his negative behavior. In fact by not standing up for yourself, you are telling him it is ok to act worse.
        What bothers me most about this post is that you have 2 kids with him. Personally I think cps should take them because your boyfriend is abusive and you are apparently too weak to do anything about it. He knows this too obviously. Everytime you fail to stand up to a bully, you are proving to them it is ok to act worse. People never hurt who they love, but many people are incapable of love, although they can easily pretend they can.

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    • Arm0se
      8 years ago

      I know what she's talking about. When you fall in love with someone it's really difficult to see them in the wrong before it's too late, even if it's totally obvious to everyone else. Eventually (if you break out of it) you can step back and look at all the bullshit you put up with, and see what everyone else was talking about.

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      • [Old Memory]
        8 years ago

        I dont understand it. I would never be able to love someone who hurt me or caused me problems. To me it seems like that is not love. I dont know what it is but its not good.

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        • Arm0se
          8 years ago

          You're entirely right. It's not good... I don't know how to explain it. It just sort of happens and you feel trapped. You feel like you can't get rid of them, you have to make it work. I don't know... Like I said you can't understand how badly they were really treating you until you get out of it.

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          • [Old Memory]
            8 years ago

            Hey. Youre in Florida. Im near Ft.Lauderdale for the week. About to go to Brus Room for some beers. If you show up Ill buy you a beer.

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            • Arm0se
              8 years ago

              Lol. Thanks, but I'm underage, and don't like beer, and don't meet strangers on the internet I've just met \(^-^)/

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