Is it normal my boyfriend and i still talk the same way after our break up?

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My boyfriend and I were together eight months. We were super close, and never argued or anything. It was perfect, until I found out he was cheating the last two months and tried telling him to quit multiple times. He never did and I was so upset I broke up with him. It's been at least a week, and he still called me baby and said all this sweet stuff and told me he loved me. The past couple days I've really missed him. So bad I say things back. It's almost the same it used to be, just not as detailed as it was. Is this normal? Oh, and sometimes he ignores me. I feel as if he found someone else and that's why we don't talk that much anymore. Is it normal to feel that way as well? I'm still really depressed over it. The break up was hard on both of us. Help would be great.

Yes 6
It depends on how long you were together 2
It depends on how you broke up 7
No 24
All of the above 7
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  • Acerbic
    11 years ago

    I don't know the dynamics of your relationship, but I can tell you that it sounds like he treated you horribly. His repeated infidelity shows that he never took you, your feelings or your relationship into account and instead, he focussed only on what he wanted at that moment without reguard for anyone else.
    I feel I should point out that it wasn't your fault that he cheated, as it was entirely his decision. If he had a problem in the relationship or a need that he felt was not being met, he could've discussed it with you. You did the right thing in leaving him- however, you should never have spoken to him or allowed him to speak to you in the same manner as you did when you were together. That shows him that even though he hurt you, you're desperate for his attention and will put up with him hurting you indefinitely. As long as you allow him to abuse you and your trust, he'll never change, and why would he? He gets to have his cake and eat it, too.
    If you have any fragment of self-respect left, do not allow him to demean you any longer. You deserve better.
    ACE

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  • dom180
    11 years ago

    He was using you.

    Don't let him manipulate you.

    Don't go after him; he's proved he's not worth it.

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  • musicgirl100
    11 years ago

    To me, this sounds like every other breakup out there. Nowa days, a lot of guys will use you to get what they want and when they can't get enough of what they want anymore they break your heart. The whole thing with calling you baby and all that? That's because he wants to use you again. Don't fall for the tricks, there are plenty of men out there don't be so hung up on just one.

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  • AquaTurtle
    11 years ago

    It sounds like you're falling into this pattern for comfort. He was really horrible to you. He clearly has no respect for you, choosing to cheat, and now ignoring you whenever he feels like it. It's easy though, because you know him and you liked him, he's familiar. He needs to go, though. It's going to be tough, but I'd say delete his number from your phone, delete him from facebook and email and whatever else you're connected to him through. It will suck for a few days but you'll get through it, and come out the other side with a clear head.

    Break ups are really hard, and it can be easy to get lonely or depressed and want the niceties of a relationship back. Just don't fall back into the trap of this guy. He wants you when no one else is around, and is happy to ignore you when something better comes along.

    You deserve more.

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    • plum6
      11 years ago

      very good observation, totally agree.

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