Is it normal it bugs me that im not graceful?

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Some people can care less about being graceful, or well mannered, or just organized but I am none of those things but it does bug me. I want to be more organized, and not so clumsy. I want to do things right like even little things, like opening stuff without spilling it, fixing something without breaking it, etc. Are people just naturally clumsy or ungraceful and cannot change? Or is there a way you can change? Thats definitely one of my new years resolution is to be more graceful and organized.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    9 years ago

    Nobody is perfect we all fall flat on our face from time to time.

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    • charli.m
      9 years ago

      You're back :D

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      • Terence_the_viking
        9 years ago

        Hello.

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  • CountessDouche
    9 years ago

    I wouldn't worry about it. I'm clumsy as FUCK, no joke. Men tend to find it adorable, attractive, and endearing for some reason that I fail to understand...but whatever.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Hmm thats weird...Ive heard in general that girls need to stop acting like they don't know what they're doing cause its NOT cute. Then my bf is like a neat freak and smart etc, and I believe he would like me to be a little more coordinated and graceful than what he sees right now. Although he has accepted this of me, I don't want to get too comfortable with it and instead I want to improve. Im pretty sure he'll like that since there's been moments I did something neat or gracefully and he was like "yes! I like that..." But I think it doesn't just go for him but for most guys as I do have a lot of guy friends and they mention it is cute when the girl knows what shes doing and she's not clumsy or ditsy.

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      • derpyderp
        9 years ago

        There's a difference between clumsy & ditzy in my opinion - ditzy being used to describe a stereotypical airhead blonde, etc here - which CountessDouche certainly isn't.

        She is super intelligent but still clumsy. So to me clumsy is more physical while ditzy is like dopey...

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      • CountessDouche
        9 years ago

        I don't mean ungraceful in the unintelligent or ditzy sense of the word; I quite literally mean physically clumsy and accident prone.

        If I had to guess, I would assume that men find this to be an attractive quality for several reasons...for starters, being with someone who is perfect is intimidating. Secondly, it's pretty funny- it's something we can both laugh about together...I'm not so insecure that I'm going to have a problem with a guy having a laugh when I do something silly. Plus, great guys do love the notion of saving the day.

        You shouldn't take yourself so seriously. Most men would prefer a humorously clumsy woman to a stepford wife any day. Your boyfriend is with you for a reason. The ability to laugh at yourself is an asset, trust me.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Just embrase it like I do. It makes people not ask for anything anyways and there isn't a whole lot you can do about it. To give a scientific explanation, clinical clumsiness, called dyspraxia, is normally a result of the cerebellum not working properly, which is the part of the brain that controls coordination. The good part is nobody wants clumsy people to help move.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      But thats the thing...I feel useless and I want people to look to me or rely on me, not feel nervous Im not gonna be able to do the job.

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      • [Old Memory]
        9 years ago

        I'm sure there are other things you are good at. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses. Einstein couldnt even tie shoes. You can still work on your coordination as well with exercises, but often clumsiness is a neurological related problem. Those types of problems can be worked on, but you may just need to work harder at them than other people.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          Is it normal that I find it relieving its a disorder and not just a problem ? It kind of makes me feel like okay its abnormal but at the same time its just something I prob can't fix right away or as easily as other people might think.

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          • [Old Memory]
            9 years ago

            It might be relieving to have an explaination. I am not trying to diagnose you either, but cannot think of a non-neurological explaination for clumsiness and it is a pretty common problem. Some people just dont have good coordination.

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