Is it normal is he consistently jokes around?

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If her boyfriend plays around with her a lot like jokes around, messes with her, etc does that mean he's comfortable with her to joke around with? Like in other words, he knows she can take a joke and he won't hurt her or upset her in any way cause he knows she can take it? My boyfriend is sucha jokester which is one of the reasons why I like him; one thing about guys in general is they dont sweat the small stuff like girls do. He's no different except he'll usually turn things into a joke or messes with me. I have not taken any of his jokes seriously and laugh them off every now and then plus he says one of the reasons why he likes me is cause I'm also funny and silly. But sometimes his jokes or sarcasm make me feel like he doesn't take me seriously. He might be getting carried away with the fact that I can take his jokes or he really doesn't take me seriously and if he hurts my feelings he doesn't care that much.

I was watching this couple on tv. Theyre married and everything but have problems. One of the things is the husband is kind of distant from his wife like even if theyre holding hands together, he's emotionally distant and of course that makes his wife question whats going on. She can't read his mind. He also messes with her like he'll be sarcastic when he tells her something. Reminds me of my bf how he can be sarcastic and sometimes I'm not sure if he's just being funny or he's messing with me meaning he doesnt take me seriously. Ill ask him sometimes like "really you are gonna do that?" he's like "mmm I don't know no, what?" like just tell me the truth. This whole joking gets tiring.

Has he gotten too comfortable with me and my sense of humor or he doesn't take me seriously? I don't want to end up like that couple married, leaving me insecure for the rest of our marriage. We do see each other long-term, especially he's said that, so considering the future is really important.

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  • Lariii
    8 years ago

    I think it sounds like you're reading a bit too much into it, guys do joke around and sometimes it can be hard for that kind of guy to stop joking and be serious, but when you need him to be serious, you should clearly communicate with him and see how he reacts. If he just cannot be serious when he needs to be, that would be a problem, but as for a generally easygoing guy that doesn't take life too seriously, there's nothing wrong with that.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Yeah he just can't be serious when I ask him a few times to be. He just doesn't like confrontations cause he thinks itll turn into a fight when really, we're just gonna have a conversation. It is sooooooooo annoying trying to get him to be serious. Most of the time I know he doesn't mean any harm but then sometimes I think maybe he just doesn't take seriously so what can I do to get him to realize its not a joke anymore and if he's not taking me seriously then does that mean I need to leave him?

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  • pyrofox
    8 years ago

    It's probably his way of making himself more comfortable. Maybe you don't smile enough or he thinks you don't so he's making stupid jokes to try and I guess fail to make you get in a better mood.

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    If he's not turning a serious situation into a joke, I would say its harmless and he probably really does care about you, enough to be himself around you.

    Don't let him feel like he can't be himself around you, cause that will probably upset and confuse him.

    If a specific joke bothers you, explain it nicely to him, I'm sure he will be kind and understand.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Your sec statement is what I'm afraid of. That's why I want to make sure what he really is up to. Is he just joking around and doesn't mean any harm? and if he is then okay, I want him to feel comfortable around me so this whole thing is a good thing. I don't want him to be all closed up around me then that's just not good. However, if that's not the case then wth? Does he not take seriously enough? and if that's the case, then how can I get him to take me seriously? if he has a hard time to be serious when we need to be serious, then does that mean I need to leave him?

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  • thefuckup
    8 years ago

    He sounds like a nice guy.

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