Is it normal im stuck between adult and child and not sure what to do about it?

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I am an adult but I don't drink, or smoke. I wouldn't want to go to a party or in situations that did this either. I want to do stuff that is adult and discuss adult things and go to party but without the LSD, drinking and smoking. So what should I do about this? I don't believe in drinking and smoking since its bad for your body, and you don't know what you are doing when high. What are ways to socialize with other adults that do not involve alcohol and stuff? I could go to a bar or go to church. Yet I really don't fit in with the church crowd. Saying "I don't drink" as a kid is fine since you are not suppose to drink anyways. Yet as adults drinking and hanging at bars is how you socialize.

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  • AbnormallyAwesome
    10 years ago

    Dringking or taking drugs just to fit in with the crowd would probably be the most childish thing you could do. If you want to be an adult go and be yourself.
    I find being abstinent helps me break the ice.
    Like: "I'll have a beer." - "I'll have an ice tea." - "What?!"
    There! You just stared an interesting conversation.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      But how do you socialize? I not sure how to socialize at work since when I go work I focus on working, I don't want drink, and I don't think I am wholesome enough to go to church and I cant stand people who do nothing but talk about god and church.

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      • AbnormallyAwesome
        10 years ago

        A church you can only attend when you're wholesome enough is a shit church.
        You can socialize any way you want. I can't think of one way people do that where drinking alcohol is mandatory.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          10 years ago

          No that is not what I mean. I mean I don't know enough about god to go to church. When I have gone everyone can quote scriptures, have read almost all the bible, and talk about church all the time, and talk about how wonderful they feel since god touched them. I just sit like an idiot like "I hope the minister doesn't call me to read, since I have no clue what page were on, and wondering why I don't feel touched by god and why I don't care enough to talk for hours about how wonderful god is".

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          • AbnormallyAwesome
            10 years ago

            Still, that church just isn't for you. If you're interested in the christian faith I'd really suggest you find a less elitist church that is more about life and less about religion. It really doesen't need to be like this.

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  • Shackleford96
    10 years ago

    Drink something without alcohol in it. Gives you the appearance of having a drink without all the inebriated goodness... Lol

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  • Sunshine:)
    10 years ago

    You don't have to drink and take drugs to be an adult. That's just not cool.

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  • tripw7
    10 years ago

    You are obviously going to a wrong church for you. I went to a university in a medium size city and the churches close to the university were all great. No participation was necessary. (I don't know how to deal with that either) The people have many activities in a setting like this, even if you aren't currently attending school, there is many activities to get involved in.
    You will be much happier with yourself by getting involved in something like this. Good luck.

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  • dom180
    10 years ago

    One of my flatmates doesn't drink but he still goes out almost every night and parties with us. No need to get drunk to socialise :) Heed the Shackleford advice.

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