Is it normal im 22, new at dating & have no idea what to do?

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Okay so this whole dating thing is kind of confusing to me! I have never had a first date. I think I'm bi sexual too. I'm still trying to figure my self out...I'm supposed to be meeting a girl (29) on Saturday. Thing is I'm terrified! I'm afraid I'll mess up but my biggest fear is that I'll feel a huge crush or a connection & she won't :/ I usually like the people/girls who don't like me back so I've had a lot of heart ache. Also, if it goes well, how do I know if I can give her a kiss? We are going to be at a coffee place so the setting is rather inappropriate. What if she pulls away , I'd be highly embarrassed! I have only had her on Facebook for 2 weeks. I decided to send a long nice text explaining that I think she's pretty cool, its hard getting to know you over the net & I'd still love to go for that coffee this Saturday if youre still keen ? She replied instantly- Hey :) Hahahah yea it is hard :) can I let you know closer to the time? I may have to work this sat x
I replied- Yeah sounds good but she didn't read my message & sometimes she doesn't! :/ That's a bad sign right ?

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Emarmake

7 years ago

Okay okay okay. Wow buddy you are a bundle of nerves huh? Well its okay cause Im gonna do my best to help.
First. Don't work yourself up over nothing. This is coffee so deep breathe, cause its going to be okay. Staying calm is the first step. Heart-racing, palm sweating and butterflies are normal but looking like your about to pass out or puke is not attractive. So do your best to stay calm.
Second. If this girl doesn't like you, than that sucks but believe it or not you'll find another. Okay so don't go worrying about something that hasn't happened yet.
Third. I'd say hold the kiss off till the very end of the date. Don't kiss her in the coffee shop. if you are dropping her off at her house, that would be the ideal time. Now here's a way to see if she wants you to kiss her, first earlier on in the date make physical contact (brush of the hands, accidental touching of feet, etc.) and see how she reacts. if she gives no sign of discomfort or awkwardness than try going a little further by holding her hand or rubbing your foot against hers. If she's still cool with all of that then you should be good to go for that kiss. The ultimate way to till in the end is to start by gently putting your hand against her cheek and the other hand on her back, then pull her in SLOWLY. if she doesn't pull away or says no, than go for it buddy. kiss the crap outta her!
Lastly. Don't over analyze texts or messages. Those things can be misleading and overthinking this sort of stuff will just drive you insane.
So be cool. Stay calm. And, i know this sounds cheesy but, be yourself. If this is meant to be than it'll happen as naturally as breathing. Good luck buddy.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  Thanks so much for this wonderful elaborate explanation/guidance :)
  Sadly, she hasn't even had the decency to get back to me and at least let me know. Its Friday night. Honestly there's a big part of me that wonders why im not deserving a simple reply or to at least meet. Makes me feel a bit hurt & worthless. I want to get angry and explain how rude it is for her to not even get back to me but I hardly know her & don't want to come across as a desperate weirdo so I'll shut my mouth. I feel I need to make her aware of her actions though, saying its better to be upfront from the start and if you really weren't interested in meeting up anymore & have changed your mind then god damit say so.
  
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  - Emarmake
    
    7 years ago
    
    I'm sorry to hear this bud. But there could be many reasons why she didn't contact you. She could have a family emergency. She could be super busy. Or maybe she simply forgot. Either way, I'd advise you to not ruin your chances with this girl by getting angry with her. Even if she is just a rude person and didn't contact you cause she wasn't interested, you still shouldn't say anything to her because if thats the case than she doesn't deserve your time and effort.
    Either way, don't worry about this man. There are plenty of women out there. Don't focus so much on just this one girl. Theres a girl out there for you, you just have to find her. :)
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      7 years ago
      
      Why thank you! I appreciate this :) I asked her politely what's happening so I can plan my day, algds if you can't make it. She told me she's working this weekend :(
      She didn't offer to reschedule though nor explain her days off. Whether she's got cold feet I wouldn't know? As I know she's already met a few off Tinder. Ouch ...
      
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      - Emarmake
        
        7 years ago
        
        Well at least she had the decency to respond to you. However In my opinion, you shouldn't pursue this girl further unless she contacts you first. You have already made it clear that you are interested in her, so this is a way to see if she is equally as interested. If she is interested, she will contact you and reschedule. If she doesn't contact you, forget about her. In the meantime I'd say start looking elsewhere, this girl isn't the only one out there so might as well explore some more options. ;)
        
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RoseIsabella

7 years ago

Try to relax.

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BLOWMENOW

7 years ago

Just bang the ever living shit out of her ass literally.

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