Is it normal if we find it unnatural to call each other "baby?"

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Me and my bf have been dating for almost two yrs (its crazy to know this!) but we were never a real couple yet we acted like one. One of the things that I always enjoyed about us was our nicknames we have given each other. It just feels more meaningful and more fun than just "babe." However, now that we are more serious and official, I notice we still find it awkward to say babe to each other, or hold hands in public, just like the really basic things that couples do. At first it didn't bother me but now it does cause by now we should feel comfortable and natural to do those things. Is it normal? Should I not worry? Idk what to do if I should let things keep flowing, but its going to be 2 yrs. Maybe I should make a move but Im afraid he's gonna act awkward if I say "hey babe" or hold his hand in public.

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  • victorygin
    8 years ago

    Whatever you naturally call each other; whether it's nicknames, pet names, your full names, whatever feels right is what you should do. You don't have to use the term "babe" just because other people do. Lots of people find it lame, cheesy and weird. So don't say it if it feels awkward.

    As for holding hands and affection, same thing applies. Some couples are just more publicly affectionate than others; it's fine. If you're thinking about it and it feels awkward, then why do it?
    You don't have to fit into what you think you should be doing. Everybody's different. So don't think; just do what feels right. babe.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Yeah just do what feels right. I mean I look at it in two ways: what I posted or we're just unique. It's 50/50 now. Before, I felt more unique than awkward about it but as I said on my post, we're more official now so I feel more awkward than before. It kind of makes me think maybe we're not as intimate or close as I thought we were. But I guess it is kind of silly to think this and embrace us as "unique." We are different in other things too so this is probably just another one added to the list.

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    I've been trying to work out for years how the expressions "baby" or "babe" came to be used between adults. I'm assuming it started in the USA but when?

    I think it sounds ridiculous anyway for adults to call each other either name.

    Holding hands? Some people like it and some don't, simple as that

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  • RainbowDischarge
    8 years ago

    It's not a big deal. It might just not be your guys thing. I've been with my man for close to over 5 years and we still do not use words of endearment like that. I actually hate "baby". Every now and then he will say "hey babe" but it's rare. I usually call him by his name or butthole/nigga.

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  • regisphilbin
    8 years ago

    don't try to conform to society's expectations of how couples "should" behave, not only is it totally overrated but what is so much more important is to feel comfortable around each other.

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  • Holzman_67
    8 years ago

    Terms of endearment differ depending on the couple. Buck the norm if it works for you and who you both are.

    Seriously, don't fret the small stuff.

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