Is it normal if to never tell them you loved them?

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I hate how this happened. This is what I didn't want to happen. But I have loved my bf since the beginning but it was too soon to tell him. Once we got more serious, I was so excited to tell him that I loved him but of course, I had no idea how or when which has lead me here. I guess you can say it's over and Im slowly accepting it even though I don't want to. The only thing is I never told him I loved him and I told myself I dont want us to end and let him go without knowing I love him. So now I'm just contemplating on whether to contact him or not but I def do wanna tell him. I also dont want him to think I'm trying to make him stay with me by saying those words because I really mean them and it would be an insult if he doesn't take it seriously. It's still fresh and before it gets too late, I wanna get it over with and tell him. I want him to know how I feel. But I also dont want to contact him anymore since he seems like hes trying to move on. I dont want to bother him. If anything, I rather wait and see when he comes to me. Then maybe I could tell him those words but what if he never contacts me again? Then he would never know.

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  • CountessDouche
    8 years ago

    When you're in love with someone who's in love with you, it's not so terrifying to say the words. If you have to second guess saying you're in love, as if it's an embarrassing admission, then you have a problem.

    I'm sorry you got dumped. I'm sure it's painful and difficult and miserable. I'm sure you want answers. I'm sure you want to say the right combination of words to make your ex realize what he's missing and understand how you feel.

    Thing is, there is no right combination of words. He doesn't want to be with you. Any answer he gives won't be good enough. It won't make you hurt any less. You could ask why all day. Ask yourself...is there any answer to that question that would satisfy you? I'm guessing not.

    Telling him you love him will just make things more painful.

    He doesn't want you. You can't change his mind or convince him to want you.

    I'm sure right now it seems as if you will never meet anyone else. It probably seems like he's the only one and you'll never get over it, always wait and never be capable of loving ever again. I'm sure you're whole world is over, but it's not. You will meet someone better, who loves you back, who you are crazy about in the same way that you feel desperate for your boyfriend who never returned your feelings.

    Dating and failing at dating and all of the misery it entails is worth it. Each shitty dating situation, whether you don't care at all or whether you care too much, teaches you something. Through all the shitty misery, you learn what you need and want, and what you deserve. You'll find someone who gives you everything someday.

    I did.

    I know you're depressed, but you'll be ok. A break up can be like a death. You can't undo it, but you can move on.

    Good luck, crazy girlfriend girl.

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  • flamer180
    8 years ago

    Tell him how you feel. I dont know your relationship exactly, but Im sure he'll respond well from hearing it :)

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  • Der_Führer_Adolf_Hitler
    8 years ago

    Nicholas Sparks, I think you've got some new material here.

    Seriously, grow up and get a life. It's so stupid when people waste their time with relationship crap like this.

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