Is it normal if people talk to me more when i'm dressed down than up?

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Every time I go out with sweats, no make up on, hair looks like it smells, etc, people like to talk to me more. My personality never changes no matter how I look and I have to say that I think my persoality matches more of the dress down look than the dress up look. Whenever I go out in nice clothes, and my hair done, with a little make up (I barely wear any anyways) people talk to me but in a different way and then just leave. Basically, my conversations last longer when I look like whatever as opposed to looking like I made an effort. Why? like I said, I think my personality is more compatible with that laid back look because I am a down to earth person. But when I look girlier, I guess people pay more attention to how I look than to what I'm saying. It might be intimidation and people are quick to judge I'm this stuck up girl just cause I look like it when I'm not. But I thought it would be the other way; people would talk to me more when I look nicer. I have alternated my wardrobe to more simple and I don't mind because that's who I am; simple. So I'm getting more people talking to me cause I guess they see who I really am now.

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  • BIgEB
    9 years ago

    I consider this to be quite normal...I'm a man...and when I dress up, people don't talk to me nearly as much (though as a 53-year old, I've been told several times by attractive (sometimes very attractive) 18-25 year old women that I can look very good in a suit or sport jacket and nice dress slacks) but they seem to feel more comfortable around me when I'm not quite as dressed up...and if you're an attractive woman...I suspect men particularly will be more "on their guard" if you do doll yourself up...they're more likely going to be afraid to "be themselves" or to make a mistake around you...they would be more likely to be aware of what they believe you will think...

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  • thr
    9 years ago

    Attractive girls who dress themselves nicely can be intimidating.

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    • BIgEB
      9 years ago

      ...absolutely...

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  • arianagray
    9 years ago

    Pretty girls who are dressed nicely are intimidating. From a girl to girl standpoint- its more intimidating to go up to the most popular girl in school who is gorgeous than it is to go up to someone who has little friends and doesn't dress as nice. Im sure you just seem more approachable when you dress in sweats and don't look as nice.

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    When you dress down, you seem approachable. When you dress up, you intimidate. I'm androgynous and The same thing happens to me. If I wear something casual or a tunic, people are more likely to approach me. If I'm wear one of my button down shirts, people seem to be less keen to talk with me. In general, people seem to shy away from having conversations with me which is great. I don't like being bothered.

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  • DangerousPotatoGuy
    9 years ago

    I think you pretty much answered your own question. As a guy, it does take a while to come up to a girl who looks overly attractive, when you get past that then all is well (Yes, even with the slightest effort at times)

    The opposite is true. From a personal experience, it sometimes bothers me when I try to start a conversation with a girl and it doesn't always go so well because it looks to me she could sink in the floor at any moment.

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