Is it normal if my bf thinks i'm lesbian?

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So I don't know if he thinks I'm lesbian and is just going with the flow that I might be bisexual. First, one of my best friends is lesbian but that doesn't mean much except she is my best friend and we hang out a lot. So on top of the second thing, supposedly I got really drunk and told him one night that I was lesbian. Hahaha it cracked me up when he told me I said that to him. Third, he has a pool view from his house and yeah it just means you're gonna see girls in bikinis. We joke around how we look out the window and "creeping." I was looking out and he's like "stop creeping yo" and looked at me like "idk you anymore." I was like "what?" lol. So the question is am I? Nah. I remember maybe a year ago I was confused and then my best friend hit on me when we first met and I thought this might be a good chance to find out where I stand. I did not like it. I was like yup I def am a guy's girl. Don't get me wrong though, I do find females attractive. Very rare do I find a girl's personality attractive and when I do, I do get a crush on her. But I think we know that today girls find other girls attractive and it's normal cause a female is known to be hotter than male no matter how hot he is. We are visual creatures so whatever looks nice we're gonna look and smile. However, going back to my bf, yeah I'm still lost about what he thinks. I feel paranoid now like if we both see an attractive girl, he's gonna think I'm hitting on her. Haha awkward.

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  • CountessDouche
    9 years ago

    And I'll say it again, what the fucking fuck did I just read?

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Omg, srs, uh ohs, gurl. Haha, hehe, hoho.

    You sound like a damn highschool teen.

    *Ahem*

    Now that I got that out of the way...

    What was the point in this? Is this just you chipping in to the whole "Lul, I iz so lesbian nd wild" trend? It doesn't make you special, it doesn't make you "cool"...Rarely do I get the impression someone is claiming to be the way you explain for attention but it just screams it out of your post.

    And as for this note: "female is known to be hotter than male no matter how hot he is."

    Wrong, wrong, wrong.

    Female beauty today is cosmetic beauty, as in not her beauty at all. In old civilizations male beauty was far more worshiped than female beauty. This idea that "women are naturally more physically appealing" came about after this over-used make up generation came about where you rarely see a woman's actual face. I mean, it's telling when a man can look "exactly" like the modern day woman if he uses make up like she does to reach a certain image.

    So, no. Women aren't naturally "hotter" than men no matter how hot he is. Infact, I would argue that if women were to never be able to use make up or men started using make up to the same extent, women had their hair cut short or men had their hair still growing, men would be as attractive as you view women are because when it comes down to it, the female beauty today is not "female" beauty, it is "cosmetic" beauty, something women simply use more but are not born with.

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    • NotTheSun
      9 years ago

      Someone sounds intimidated.

      Women are naturally "hotter", even without make-up, this just proves you do not experience attractive and gorgeous women. I've been enamored with a lot of my past gfs, because their beauty is unmatched. Guys with make-up on is an ugly sight, testosterone and masculinity do not wear it well, at all. Feminine features are more desirable, when men even attempt to wear make up or have long hair, it's the feminine and less masculine "look" that makes it half decent, guys are not naturally gifted like women, even the most attractive ones, if you do not have enough real life experience with both genders, in person, and base this on Hollywood stars, you are the teenager. The only people who argue things like this are men who don't have enough attractive women in their lives and are offended that the entire gender is in question.

      Beauty, sure, relative, but only to a certain extent.

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      • CountessDouche
        9 years ago

        Attraction is indeed relative; you find "estrogen features" to be more desirable, and that is perfectly fine..not everyone shares your opinion. It's quite silly to claim that one gender is ultimately more attractive to everyone than the other gender.

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        • NotTheSun
          9 years ago

          Of course, but so do women. There is a large amount of girls who are attracted to girls, femininity is just so alluring; as is soft skin and curves, to me.

          No one can really argue gender/attraction, since it is so relative and people are bias and defend their own gender. Still, I will always believe I am on the right side of the argument.

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          • CountessDouche
            9 years ago

            I would never say that femininity is not alluring, in it's own respect...indeed, it is a true work of art, and I disagree with duz regarding that point. However, I myself do find masculinity to be incredibly attractive, if not more.

            I think aesthetic attraction is relative, and convoluted by sexual and social cues. No one can definitively say one is more or less than the other.

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            • [Old Memory]
              9 years ago

              I don't recall saying femininity in some cases can't be alluring. >_>

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          • [Old Memory]
            9 years ago

            "There are a large amount of girls who are attracted to girls".

            There are a large amount of men attracted to men, too. What is your point?

            "Femininity is just so alluring; as is soft skin and curves".
            Well, firstly, soft skin is not only a "feminine" thing, men simply do not use the same skin treatment as women do.

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            • NotTheSun
              9 years ago

              You actually believe the only difference in soft skin, be it facial, legs, arms etc is skin treatment? This sounds like you are a girl with no contact with males, or the type of boy who hasn't fully developed and incessantly tries to grow a beard, to no avail.

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            • NeuroNeptunian
              9 years ago

              I don't really give a rat's rear end who wins the argument but some features, such as soft skin, are definitely more feminine than not. If you need a better source, I can find one or you can Google it. It's not a source I care about but I figured having something other than hearsay would make my statement somewhat more credible.

              http://marshanunleymd.wordpress.com/2011/03/04/estrogen-a-hormone-much-maligned/

              Had to sit there and listen to my coworker, a body builder, explain to another coworker, a female, why she will never get buff unless she takes testosterone supplements. Very enlightening conversation. Yes, sex hormones do come with their own unique affects on appearance...

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            • NeuroNeptunian
              9 years ago

              Correcting my last post, not testosterone supplements but estrogen blockers, specifically. Everyone has both hormones but generally, males have testosterone in greater quantity and women have estrogen and progesterone in greater quantity.

              I'd happily cite sources but testosterone is what makes it easier for males to build muscle mass and estrogen is what makes it easier for women to store fat and not grow so much body hair. The last source I cited sucked but I needed something to make my statement more credible. Google it or ask, it's abundant information.

              Hence, why men with low T lose muscle and women with lower T lose sex drive and energy, because the T influences that too. Did you know estrogen regulates body temperature? You do now. This is all the tip of the ice berg.

              My point is that sex hormones influence a lot more than you might think. You learn this shit when you work out or use birth control. I do both.

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      • [Old Memory]
        9 years ago

        "Someone sounds intimidated". No, just have my nonsense shield lowered due to not having any sleep.

        "Women are naturally hotter". No. Not only does history show differently but modern day time does, too.

        "I've been enamored with a lot of my past gfs, because their beauty is unmatched."

        As have I had women come to me that are extremely beautiful, that doesn't change what I stated. Your point serves no purpose other than a "Hur, dur, I gets the pretty girls". It's not something that solely happens to you nor does it have any relevance to the discussion.

        "Guys with make-up on is an ugly sight, testosterone and masculinity do not wear it well, at all."

        1. Say that to the men women adore over more than anyone; Movie/TV stars. They wear make up.

        2. Men can use make up to look exactly like modern day women. You simply saying "No" does not make it so.

        "The only people who argue things like this are men who don't have enough attractive women in their lives and are offended that the entire gender is in question."

        Right back at you. Your arguments (if you can call it that) can be fired right back at you.

        "if you do not have enough real life experience with both genders, in person, and base this on Hollywood stars, you are the teenager."

        I have moved around frequently since I was a child. My opinion is not based on TV alone.

        Sorry, but your "I say so, therefor it is" argument isn't an argument at all. All you have here is a big load of nothing with a hint of shaming tactics to try shame me out of my position...You don't hold the intellectual capacity to do that to me, you twit, I wouldn't bother again.

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        • NotTheSun
          9 years ago | pl

          Yada yada, all I read is the ramblings of an introverted male who doesn't get any.

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          • [Old Memory]
            9 years ago

            Pffffftahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha.

            ...

            Think I'm done? Nope.

            AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA.

            Ok, now I'm done.

            Don't start something you can't finish. Take this as a reminder that what you think you can do and what you can do are on different ends of the scale.

            You're on here trying to pass yourself off as this womanizing stud, but how much should I bet none of it is true?

            P.s, I wouldn't go down the "Doesn't get any" route. Like the rest of your child-like attempts; it holds no grounds and only shows your inability to provide anything to the discussion you thought you were able to contribute to.

            P.s.s, pick your self respect at the door. You're such the massive mangina that it's pretty damn clear you're all talk looking for the next internet lady to pat you on the head. That what you want, skippy? ;)

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            • NotTheSun
              9 years ago

              Still didn't read a single whiny word, try harder, your crazy appears to be dripping all over the screen.

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    • LizardSkin
      9 years ago

      LOL. Made me spit out some of my drink with that first line.

      As for High School teens.. I get that impression from a lot of topics on this website.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    9 years ago

    Call yourself whatever you want but if you're sexually attracted to females then you just are.

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  • Crμsades
    9 years ago

    Joe Francis deserves the death sentence.

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago

    If your boyfriend has problems with his perception of you, then he should probably leave you. If you have problems with your boyfriend's perception of you, then you should probably leave him.

    Other than that, try to separate fact from opinion from selective perception. You have a long way to go with your cognitive development.

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  • Karmasbitch
    9 years ago

    More common than you realize. Unless your name ist Riley.

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