Is it normal if im scared of his vulnerability ?

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So my bf recently labeled us and today he said something so sweet, that I thought wow he was serious when he said he is gonna change once we're more official. Def do not wanna get carried away, it was just one statement but it meant a lot especially how he normally is. Then I just began thinking of him actually putting more effort in our relationship like he did with that statement more often and I just started getting a little weirded out, almost scared like I wont be able to handle it. He is already a sensitive man and Ive seen it, he doesn't play when hes serious. Like its black and white w him. Either hes a jokester or he is hulk, except more introverted. But now that hes gonna be more vulnerable, Im just scared of showing that I am weirded out and hes not gonna like that and hes gonna go back to being closed-off.

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  • derpyderp
    8 years ago

    Again????????????

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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    Why do you have to be weirded out?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Because he's not like that and when he is sensitive its scary.

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      • Short4Words
        8 years ago

        Well you can't stop it so you might as well just roll with it.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          8 years ago

          Yeah itll be a while to get accustomed to

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  • Nokiot9
    8 years ago

    Exhausting as hell too. Should probably switch to guys permanently...

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  • Nokiot9
    8 years ago

    The fine fine line most men walk. Being vulnerable enough to be caring, open, and loving, but hard enough to still be masculine and attractive to women. Quite the acrobatics show sometimes...

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  • DolphinAngel
    8 years ago

    It truly is weird how differently people behave depending on the environment they are in or the people they are with.

    I cannot really answer your question here but I would say that it is normal to be scared about how he will behave around you in the future since unknown things always have something interesting, exciting and in your case even scaring to them.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Well like I commented above, its usually guys who know how to hold their emotions until they decide to let go. As a girl, I'm the same way as you...idk how I could hold or control my feelings for him. It just happens.

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    I don't see how him saying he's going to change means he's vulnerable?

    Lots of people say they are "going to change", it doesn't mean they will. If he wants to change why isn't he changing now rather than saying he will do so in the future?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Well what I meant when I said he's gonna change is that he's gonna be more vulnerable and emotional towards me.

      And he said hes going to change now that hes put a label on us as opposed to before. I guess before because he wasnt my bf, he didn't want to completely be vulnerable.

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      • Ellenna
        8 years ago

        Well good luck with that: I'm just a bit dubious that someone can just decide to be more vulnerable and emotional, but I guess it's possible, hope so for your sake

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          8 years ago

          Well after so many conversations, apparently guys can hold their emotions inside even if they really like or love that person. It all depends if theyre ready to let go and love again and so now that we are a couple, he feels more comfortable to trust me to not hurt him. Throughout us dating, he learned to trust me (im guessing thats why it took so long) with his feelings. But because hes been holding his emotions this long, Ive gotten accustomed to that guy and not the guy whos vulnerable. So I guess little by little.

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          • Ellenna
            8 years ago

            That all sounds hopeful. Don't assume it's only guys who hold their emotions inside, plenty of women do it too.

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