Is it normal if i wish my family wasn't so conservative?

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My family is pretty strict but not too strict. But to them and everyone else, I look too wild for them or like I'm disrespecting them. It's annoying because I'm not doing anything terrible but because they are conservative, I look like this animal. If you put me in a family that is less conservative, I'd look like the normal one. So you see how it outweighs the other? I want to do so many things especially in the entertainment industry and I don't mean like porn or anything but I just feel like it won't be accepted. I will have a career in this industry and they think it's going to be really professional and I'm going to look like this sophisticated career girl but I'll probably disappoint them when they see how the industry really is. I will have to go out to events and travel and part of those will be to concert viewings, nightclubs, etc and they will think like I'm just playing around and not working. Newsflash, this is my job even if I'm not coming home at midnight. I'm desperately trying to get my own place but it's not easy right now so I have to balance out living at home and my career. I see many people who are already doing what I want to do and I just wonder, are their families also conservative or did they come from a more flexible background? Of course, it varies but I just wonder where do they usually come from and how they grew up.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    9 years ago

    It's pretty easy to stand out from your family. Just because you're related, doesn't mean that you are on the same wavelength.

    I am 22 and have been living on my own since I was about 18 or 19 (either with a BF paying half the bills or by myself like I am now). I have been going to school and working full-time since I was 18. I moved out mainly because my home was too much to handle, a bit of family violence and the like. I did not fit in with that family because I am a lot more "logical" than my Mom (according to her) and a lot LESS liberal than she is.

    In fact, I am too conservative for that side of the family. Much of my family likes to party too much, sleep around too much, make too many babies and work too little. I don't like being around any of them because, while I enjoy smoking and drinking and what not, they take it to a level to which it would interfere with my goals and career. Maybe they're not liberal, maybe they're just dirtbags. But they're also very liberal. I can look like a stiff, pretentious asshole without even making mention of my beliefs or opinions of what they do.

    My Dad's side of the family, the family who lives in the city I live in and who I am very close to and spend a lot of time with is pretty conservative. They work a lot in the business field and work a lot with guns and the sort. We have the same hobbies, we both love working and racing with cars, sport shooting, sci-fi and we share the same general philosophies. We get along pretty well.

    You go ahead and do you and respect their beliefs. Ultimately, it's their house and so long as they are paying your bills, you need to respect their rules. Take their wisdom to heart. I know some conservative philosophies sound dumb as hell, but I have learned and applied a lot of the philosophies I have learned from my family to my daily life and gotten good results. You don't have to believe in everything they say and do but if they are successful people and have their shit together, their advice may be worth listening to.

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  • MagnumMann244
    7 years ago

    If you are not conservative yourself, then you obviously are going have trouble with their views. I'm conservative myself, but I sometimes have the same trouble with some liberal members of my family.

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