Is it normal if i wish he can treat me like i treated my ex?

My ex was basically going through what I'm going through right now with this guy I'm dating, lets call him Wall. I feel insecure, alone, not good enough, all because I deeply am in love with him just like how deeply my ex was with me. The difference is, every time my ex would start expressing these feelings to me like "I don't want my gf goin out and dancing where theres a bunch of thirsty college guys" "I do get irritated when I see a guy looking at you knowing hes prob better than me" "why aren't you texting me as much as last week?" I would sympathize and MADE SURE he had nothing to worry about. I basically nurtured his feelings and tried to make him feel better. Although he remained unsure, I was there to protect him and us. Now, the pages have turned. Except, Wall doesn't nurture my feelings. He doesn't tell me "you have nothing to worry about." Instead, I have to ask him "so I shouldn't worry?" and then he'll be like "no I don't think so" or "well I don't want to make any promises but no you don't" or the ultimate "you're crazy." God all I want from him is to be sympathetic to my insecure feelings like I was for my ex. Then I think, well, girls are more caring and emotional than guys so I guess thats why I found it in me to care about my ex's feelings unlike Wall to me. He tells me I'm crazy for thinking these things but I have reasons to. Already found out he's been talking to his former fling who now lives out of the country. He would tell her these sweet things and I confronted him and he made the most hilarious excuse as to why he was talking to her that way. He goes "thats me talking to someone I know I will never see again! meaning, I didn't mean anything by it. Its like just playing around." Wtf? I straight up laughed and told him I didn't believe any of that bs. Just admit it you miss her and was just being nice to her. Even if he was doing what he was saying, why? Poor girl is taking it seriously. So i have reasons to be suspicious and insecure and I wish he can give me reassurance like I gave my ex. Treat people how you would like to be treated much?