Is it normal if i want to prevent him from doing this?

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I want to stop my bf from breaking up with me and making the same mistake I did. I want to make him realize that I am right for him because as weird as it sounds, I have hope that he is a better person than I am. He wants to break up with me because I know it's cause he feels like he can find someone better who suits his lifestyle, his type and needs. Hes doing what I've done before with my ex, I broke up with him cause I felt like I could find someone better for me, and I did...my boyfriend today. My ex made me feel loved and appreciated which is how I make my bf feel. But my ex wasn't someone I can see myself with but now I see there's more to relationships and love than trivial things like "type" and other needs. I want my bf to realize that and possibly change his mind about breaking up with me. Maybe he is a better person than I am and will appreciate me more than I appreciated my ex. He doesn't realize that I love him and always will be there for him so yes I do need to tell him this as I learned guys can be clueless and learn when you tell them directly. So I just want to prevent him from breaking up with me and losing me like I lost my ex. Hell realize no one will love him like I love him just like I realized no one will ever love me like my ex loved me.

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  • deepdankstickygoo
    8 years ago

    What goes around comes around.

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  • Imsittingonthetoilet
    8 years ago

    Live alone and masturbate.

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    Maybe he's breaking up with you because you're such a control freak? You can't make him do anything and you can't stop him from breaking up with you. The only person you can control is yourself

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    This sounds very codependent of you. You'll be much happier when you accept that you're powerless over people, places and things. The more you try to control him the more he's going to pull away, and as well he should. He has the right to decide what he wants, and what's right for him. Acceptance is the answer to all your problems today.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      But I want him to see the bigger picture. I know he has a hard time thinking things through and sometimes I'm the one who speaks for him in a good way. He's told me im "better with words" or something like that meaning I think things clearer than he does. So I fear that this is just one of those cases where he doesn't see things fully.

      But yeah if he sees the bigger picture and still doesn't want to be w me then fine. I wouldn't want him to be with me like its a chore.

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  • peaches1992
    8 years ago

    You sound young, the more you try make him do things the more you push him away.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      Yes but I have always been the type to communicate and speak up. I don't like holding thigs inside. In contrast, he doesn't know how to communicate or think things through and in our relationship, I've been the one to speak up for both of us which he's admitted it has helped cause we both know he doesn't think things through sometimes. So I just feel like this is another case of him not seeing the bigger picture and once things are all out there in the open, he should be willing to be with me. If not then there's nothing else I can. I'm just trying to save a meaningful relationship, its not just any other one.

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  • flamer180
    8 years ago

    awww sounds sweet :)

    So your saying your current boyfriend doesnt love you as much as your ex?

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