Is it normal if i want to break up with him because he thinks i'm a bitch?

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So apparently my bf looks at me like a bitch or a psycho. That really irritated me because he doesn't understand how the way he has treated me has caused this behavior of mine. Individually, I am not a bitch or a psycho. I'm friendly, generous, etc and I asked my friends if they think that too and they sincerely said "nooo wth? why do you ask?" If he looks at me like someone I am not and he can't see what he's done to bring out that side of me, then I don't wanna be with him. Who would want to be w someone who looks at them in a negative way? Ew. Plus, let's say we break up, and he describes me being that crazy ex...I can't live with that knowing I am not a crazy person. I wouldn't want the reputation of "the crazy ex."

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  • CountessDouche
    9 years ago

    You honestly sound pretty psycho.

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    • iEatZombies_
      9 years ago

      Most people who are accused of being crazy can't seem to do anything that doesn't look crazy. You could say that being called crazy makes you snap.

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  • iEatZombies_
    9 years ago

    People will always call you something when you aren't letting them get away with stuff. Crazy, in particular, is always going to be the name given to someone who speaks when told they shouldn't.

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  • breathingtree
    9 years ago

    Your friends know the truth about you and they like you, that's what should matter. I know it hurts to have someone you loved and trusted say things about you behind your back that aren't true, but your friends won't believe him. He will only make himself look like a manipulative ass if he tells anyone you mutually know that you're a bitch or a psycho.

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  • regisphilbin
    9 years ago

    Find someone who appreciates you more.

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  • WhiteStallion
    9 years ago

    I know this feeling! Oh sister I know it ! Ohhhh!......ok drama aside(or more possibly).....I know how painful it is when a loved one does not trust you...that one person you love and think good off cannot come to think good about you... that deep down you are a good person with only intentions to love him! You can tell him exactly how you feel...share these feelings with him and maybe even apologize for it. This way you are the bigger person and don't make the mistake of hanging onto someone just because you find it difficult to let him go now. You have to value yourself enough that if he does break up with you... it's his loss! Besides if he brings out the worst in you most of the time that's a sign perhaps you are incompatible or someone still has some growing up to do :P

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    • Ellenna
      9 years ago

      What exactly does OP have to apologise for? Responding to being treated badly by someone who sounds like a total arsehole?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Yeah its not fair how I like bragging about him to friends and family and I don't think he does the same when really he should like talking bout how much I care for him, how great of a person I really am for always being there for him no matter what. But he looks at me like a bitch so he wouldn't want to brag about that to friends and family.

      But yeah I mean I've already confronted him how I'm not crazy but he goes "pple who sat are not crazy are crazy " and all this other shit that is not true. So the only way I can convince him is by stating evidence and if he still thinks low of me then yeah I'm over it. I can't be w someone who doesn't appreciate me especially after how much I try to show I love him.

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  • Redcoats
    9 years ago

    Break up already.

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  • VinnyB
    9 years ago

    Or lets say you break up and he tells people you were bad in bed, or lets say you and he says you didn't like puppies and kittens, or maybe he will tell people that you are an alien from outer space?

    Who gives a fuck? People talk shit about there ex's sometimes. You are going to stay with someone you don't want to be with just because you are afraid of that?

    Just grow up and break up with him.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      No. It hurts to know that someone I love and look up to looks down on me like that. If it was someone I didn't care that much about then yeah fuck it. But in this case, it hurts that the person you love can't see that.

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      • Ellenna
        9 years ago

        You "love and look up" to him? Why?

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          Yeah I do because he's confident, he's got his shit together, he's street smart and book smart, and other stuff.

          The love part is a little difficult cause I so love him but love is like this unexplainable thing that happens to you. You can't really jot down why you love that person but I just do, I think of him I see his name my heart beats...I feel alive again when I hear from him... its just this emotional slingshot

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      • Riddler
        9 years ago

        You still dont tell us what he did to cause it so all we have to go on is his accusation. Unless you tell us what he did we really cant judge. Sometimes people become assholes since they perceive normal behavior as an attack on them "Like my mother". While others become jerks because they are treated like jerks for so long. However without any kind of idea what he did we really cant judge, we just know he thinks you are a crazy bitch(His words yes?). If he wants to break up since he thinks you are crazy well yes that makes sense, if you truly are one has yet to be determined but if you want to know that you need to give us more details.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          It doesn't seem like he wants to break up or leave me cause I'm a bitch but its more like I want to leave him cause he thinks that of me. Why would I want to be w someone who thinks something wrong of me? I want him to seee me as someone who lifts him up higher , someone friendly he can always come to cause that's what I genuinely do for him but he doesn't see it or appreciates it.
          What has he done to bring that side of me? I think I did mention it somewhere here but I'll do it again ...
          He doesn't present or show that I'm his Gf in public, he doesn't take me seriously when I talk about the same things he talks to me about, every time I just want have a conversation bout something he thinks I want to argue but he's just jumping to conclusions, he can be rough w me and disrespectful and inconsiderate of me in public, hell be nice to others but not me, and more. I get irritated at the end of the day but I don't think its to the point of a "bitch". I'll show him a real bitch and hell miss me being sweet to him.

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          • Ellenna
            9 years ago

            And you still say you love this arsehole? There's nothing much there to even like, let alone love: you deserve better but you won't get it from him.

            What form does the being "rough" with you in public take? If you mean physical roughness, it's time you got out of there fast. The rest of his behaviour is evidence he knows he can get away with anything with you because you "love" him and if his obvious contempt for you is also expressed physically, it's time you got away from him.

            The part of you that's justifiably angry with him and wants to end it is healthy: listen to it!

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              9 years ago

              Maybe rough was the wrong term but more like careless, nothing physical. More like w words I guess.

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          • Riddler
            9 years ago

            Well honestly who wants to stay when you think so little of them? I would not want to stay either.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              9 years ago

              Yeah its like I love talking about him to my friends and family and I just have a feeling he doesn't do the same. Its irritating that he doesn't see how much I like being w him but he makes it seem like I'm a bitch so therefore, why would he want to talk about his girl when she's a bitch? But I'm not and idk how to make him think otherwise. I've already told him "I'm not crazy" and he goes "pple who say they're not crazy are crazy." Then hell see I'm upset and he goes "OK ur not crazy I'll leave it at that" just so I can shut up

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      • VinnyB
        9 years ago

        Yep, relationships and breakups hurt sometimes, still not a reason to stay in a relationship that makes you unhappy with a person that makes you feel that way.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          Yeah thats why I'm going to break up with him lol so in the end you agree.

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          • VinnyB
            9 years ago

            I honestly don't know what this comment means. I didn't realize we were arguing a point. I just gave my opinions on the facts you presented. I was not agreeing or disagreeing with you, or anyone else, that I was aware of.

            But if that were the case, since I told you from the beginning to break up with him, and that is what you have decided, wouldn't be that you agreeing with me?

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              9 years ago

              Well maybe i read it wrong but first you said "grow up and break up with him" but its not about "growing up" its what I responded that makes it hard to decide what to do.
              Then you said I shouldn't stay with someone who makes me feel that way so again thats why I responded with yeah thats what I want to do. He makes me feel like shit cause I love him. It's not about being immature or growing up. It's about how he makes me unhappy.

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  • Short4Words
    9 years ago

    You can't let a silly thing like that stop you from doing what you want. Who cares what your ex has to say... he's your ex, they all talk shit.

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  • flyingnostalgia
    9 years ago

    Yes...just break up and be get over with it.

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