Is it normal if i want to be lesbian?

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I'm so tired of douchbags. Being w my bf who is only my sec one has been such a draining experience. Then just seeing in general how guys can be so betraying and heartless about the actions they do makes me worried about trusting my future husband. It's not fair and it's not nice. No matter what the consequences are, guys don't give a shit. I'm pretty sure there are guys who wouldn't cheat or betray their girl in any way but the chances are slim of finding them.

I do find women attractive but thats it. But I am best friends w a lesbian and good friends w her girlfriend and I see how they are happy together. One of them is bi and the other one was actually unsure about her orientation but met my best friend and couldn't help but fall for her and I think thats beautiful. I don't think you can say who your type is, it's whoever you just fall for. We were all talking once about how they did start liking women because they're just more caring and generous and feel more safe w them like they won't betray you and if they do, most likely they will confront you and say sorry unlike guys who will basically be like "what she doesn't know won't hurt her." My bf right now is turning me into a lesbian because I know he is a good guy but he can be soooo shady sometimes and uses his good reputation to hide it. He's even admitted that he's so smart people can't figure out what he's up to. Many guys are like this and I don't think it's funny or attractive. But what do they care...all they care about is money and image.

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breathingtree

9 years ago

There are plenty of lesbians who cheat on their girlfriends. People cheat.

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[Old Memory]

9 years ago

Uh-huh. So you're going to say how guys in general are douchebags, betrayers, and heartless because of the men YOU chose? -_-

I'm actually sick of women like you, same goes for guys like you. You pick certain types of guys and then you do this whole guilt by association thing based upon who you have picked within a group and never realize that maybe, JUST MAYBE, you're the one to blame in regards to the men you've ended up with. I'm pretty much an asshole, I won't deny it. I have my good parts about me but I'm pretty much an asshole and even when I've stated to certain women I am not interested in that I'm an asshole they would still persist. Then later on in life would find a guy, break up with them, and then blame it on the male gender. No. Just no.

My advice: Pick better men or just don't look for men.

So please go and cry about this elsewhere. You just sat there and told us what your boyfriend is like and you're still with him...You're STILL with him. So it's not like you've "just found this out".

You picked the asshole. Stop blaming everyone else because you picked an asshole. You can't be attracted to these assholes, be in a relationship even when you know they're assholes, and then pull out the "I just wanna nice guy. :'(" speech because you're still with the type of person you apparently can't stand. -_-

Ugh. Tiredness mixed with people like this is not a good mix for Duzzy...It makes me rant and it also makes me refer to myself in the third person with a weird nickname for my username. >_>

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  9 years ago
  
  Nooo noooo noooo.
  
  You've jumped to conclusions.
  
  1) I'm not associating all guys to be this way based on just the guys I've been with. It's everywhere! From my experiences to my friends experiences to stories to what I literally see in front of my eyes etc...Thats why I'm not afraid to say IN GENERAL GUYS ARE ASSHOLES. And I did mention, I know there are guys who don't fall under this category but CHANCES ARE SLIM TO FIND THEM.
  
  2) I said my bf IS a good guy. Why would I want to go out with someone who admits he's an asshole? Or is just straight up, obviously an asshole? Those guys just have low-self-esteem and being an asshole boosts their egos. Same goes for women before you bitch about that statement too. So I know my guy is not an asshole yet he does these shady things that I don't deserve. Basically, I think he's taking advantage of me being so loving to him which I shall stop.
  
  3) Perhaps you are right in that I should choose better men and maybe didn't judge very well when I got with him. Maybe he is an asshole but I gave him a chance and believed in him cause I didn't want to just give up on him and throw him to the curb. But enough is enough and he probably doesn't deserve all these chances Ive been giving him.
  
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    9 years ago
    
    1) Exactly. You're saying men in general are assholes based on the type of men you surround yourself with. That's not men's issue, that's a you issue.
    
    2. You said, "My bf right now is turning me into a lesbian because I know he is a good guy but he can be soooo shady sometimes and uses his good reputation to hide it. He's even admitted that he's so smart people can't figure out what he's up to."
    - You're implying that your boyfriend is making you lose interest in men by how he is turning you in to a lesbian. So a "good guy" can make you get turned off by men in general? Uh-huh... -_-
    
    Then you go in to explain how he's taking advantage of you...But he's still such a super good dude, right?
    
    No. You're blaming men in general for your choice in men, be it in relationships or who you surround yourself with.
    
    3. So you did pick a guy who may be an asshole. You're CLEARLY implying he's an asshole by the things you are implying he does by stating things like he doesn't deserve the chances you've given him, implying he's done things he's needed chances for to redeem. You can't just say he's a good guy and then imply everything you have about him which points to the complete opposite.
    
    Regardless, you picked this guy. You rewarded this guy's behavior with a stupid "I can fix him!" mentality. You're portraying to men that to be with you they have to be the type of person you give chances to.
    
    So again. You picked these men. Don't blame everyone else for your choice. This is your fault that you choose to be around these men, don't claim that men are generally assholes simply because of your choice in male company.
    
    Not to mention. Implying men are more likely to cheat and betray is ridiculous given studies have shown women are actually more likely to cheat.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      9 years ago
      
      Well I did admit in my response that I probably DIDNT JUDGE VERY WELL.
      
      The way I see it is you think I chose to be with an asshole and in the end, I blame him and not my poor choices. No. When I got with him, I thought he was a good guy so all these actions that portray him to be an asshole, I didnt quickly jump to conclusion that he is an asshole. But over time, I realize that I judged poorly and gave who I thought was a good guy a chance. So I didn't choose to be with an asshole. I chose to be with a good guy.
      
      And I'm sorry but there are wayyyyyyyy too many instances that show guys just have asshole in them regardless if theyre from my experiences or not. I mean hello? I was still open-minded about this guy knowing majority of guys are assholes but since I believed there were still good guys out there including him, I gave him a chance. And he let me down. Yeah thats based on my own experience, but like I said, there are too many instances that are not based on my experiences that show how guys can be heartless i.e, in the news, a friend's mom's relationship, and more. Just like you think girls have this reputation of falling for assholes, I could very well say that is based on your experience and its not true. But come on, stereotypes don't come out of nowhere, it comes from a truth. Am I one of those girls? No, BUT I don't blame you for thinking that because that seems to be a really large truth about girls just like its a large truth about how guys are heartless. Maybe you're not one of them but blame your guys for giving your gender that reputation.
      
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        9 years ago
        
        Well you sure did know while posting this and I'm sure he didn't just barrage you with all the issues you seen in him before posting this and had been doing what he has been doing for a while.
        
        I don't buy the "He was different before I was with him" BS people always spout. It's not hard to observe them with others before making your decision. Not to mention that is irrelevant as he's clearly been the way you've explained for a while and you've STILL stayed with him. So essentially you went out with him, he turned out to not be the person you thought he was, and you thought "Meh, fuck it. May aswell continue this anyway"?
        
        Not to mention you just said this, "Maybe he is an asshole but I gave him a chance and believed in him cause I didn't want to just give up on him and throw him to the curb". Stating you gave him a chance even though he could of been an asshole, so either you didn't know him enough before being with him or he showed asshole behaviors before.
        
        Yes, ofcourse. Too many...Uh-huh. *roles eyes*
        How many men compared to women gravitate towards positions to ensure the safety of others such as pocile officers, firefighters, military, and so on? Men...Not women. So I'm sorry but if you're trying to brand men as generally assholes and women as not so much you've got another thing coming because men are far more likely to put their life on the line than women are for others.
        
        "I was open minded about this guy."
        - YOU'RE STILL FUCKING WITH HIM! UGH! You're becoming too much. Again, I don't buy that you just thought he was a good guy because if you genuinly disliked his asshole behavior and he's been doing it for a while then you wouldn't be with him now.
        
        No, the majority of men are not assholes. Even that is subjective. YOU might think they're assholes but that doesn't mean they ARE assholes.
        
        The news, a person's relationship, and more. I already told you that women are statistically more likely to cheat. You've lost that point. Not to mention the news doesn't even cover 10% of the male gender.
        
        Many girls do go for the assholes, that's just a common fact. Simply look at the heartthrob of this decade. Christian Grey, a crazy, manipulative, abusive, rapist. Yet he's the largest heartthrob of this decade.
        
        You can't say men are heartless when they do the majority of the work to keep people safe. -_-
        
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        9 years ago
        
        If you don't believe that I genuinely thought he was a good guy then thats you but I know thats the truth and I can't convince you in any better way. And when you say how I should know who a person is by observing them, well guess what, he IS a good guy with others from what I observed. The way he was with peers and friends and family, he comes off as a good guy. Ive never got to see how he is with other girls in terms of intimacy so maybe hes just an asshole when it comes to relationships idk, he's confusing and he's obviously confusing me and you.
        
        Trust me how many times do girls get attacked for being subjective in terms of guys being assholes? MANY TIMES. Gee I wonder why, cause its just too common to just easily throw away and believe otherwise.
        
        Okay you want to talk movies? How many movies are made based on the guys cheating on you, betraying on you? Oh hey Christian Grey...another example of an asshole. Great example to put both of our views in one, guys are assholes and girls will go along with it. Perfect.
        
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VinnyB

9 years ago

Many women are like that too. Money and image? Woman (not saying all) have been picking men for that reason forever. Or maybe you think those girls think Hugh Heffner is just so sexy.

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Ellenna

8 years ago

If you believe on the basis of one observed lesbian relationship that they're all perfect or even close to it, you're in for a big disappointment.

I've been heterosexual and lesbian and haven't found women to be any more reliable or faithful or wonderful.

If you want to try it go ahead but don't get your expectations unrealistically high.

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KeddersPrincess

9 years ago

I've seen my fair share of untrustworthy, dishonest, and unfaithful women many if which who are proud of it. I've had girls admit to me that they were cheating on their boyfriends with a snicker like they were expecting to be praised for the action. Women are no better. It just depends on who you pick. You have some good ones and some bad ones in both genders.

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flyingnostalgia

9 years ago

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Avant-Garde

9 years ago

The grass is always greener on the other side. Always remember this, OP.

Among humans, you'll have good eggs among bad apples. This is how it will always be. You've had two bad experiences, which shouldn't tarnish the way you feel towards men. I'm not blaming you but, you seem to have difficulty with finding the right guy and being unable to discern them until well into the relationship. A pattern seems to be forming. I think you might benefit from taking a little break from the dating scene.

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