Is it normal if i want to ask my bf what kind of girl he wants?

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Were not in the best place right now as a matter of fact we were never official. I just say bf cause that's the clearest label I can identify him by. Any who, the whole time we've been seeing each other I always felt like I wasn't good enough for him. But because I love him and he motivates me to be better (unintentionally) I want to be the girl he wants! I wanna straight up ask him what kind of girl do you want and want to marry? Its not like he's gonna say a crackhead or something. He likes good girls yet adventurous and I just feel like I am those! But he won't give me a chance. For now, whether he's there or not he is is my motivation to be a better person and ideally I would want to win him over but if not, at least I became a better person. I'm such a perfectionist tho. I feel like yes I can move on and be happy but there's always going to be that hole that I know what to fill it with: him. I fear of being unsatisfied even if I marry someone whom I love. If I bump into him in the future it'll all just come back to me and I'll end up in a divorce. And even if I don't ever see him, he will be in the back of my head and with me in spirit. Why can he just give us a chance. Of course there's that other option of winning him over by just being me which I have confidence in its just I feel like there's a better chance of being w him if I improve myself. Otherwise, wow my life would be complete if he accepted all of me and see right through my flaws like I see through his.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    You're too obsessive. Improve yourself for you. Not others.

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  • paramore93
    9 years ago

    Dont think you should be thinking about marriage at the moment .. and not at all until you are 100% over him .. is he really worth a future divorce with somebody you love if you cant even clarify what kind of relationship you guys have :/

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  • ilovetoiletrolls
    9 years ago

    Sounds like you're obsessed, not in love. I'd probably just move on and find someone else. There's bound to be another that'll make you realize you made a mistake. Maybe this guy gives you what you like and want but you really deserve to be with a guy who gives you all the time in the world and gives you what you need.

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  • Slendys_Best_Friend
    9 years ago

    If your not in a good place, next time your in an aurgument. Straight up ask him.

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