Is it normal if i think my breakup isn't fair?

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My bf has always lacked communication and expressing emotions that is until he decided to break up with me. Finally, after all these years of trying to get him to say something, he finally talks to me like a mature human being only to dump me. It was kind of nice to listen to all his thoughts because I finally saw where he stands but obviously at the same time, it wasn't nice to realize that he was breaking up with me. I think it's unfair that he never communicated with me throughout our relationship, maybe if he did we could've worked things out which is why I always brought things up; so we can solve it. But he was always quiet. It's just not fair so I refuse to be dumped basically because I feel like he didn't give me a full chance. This whole time I've been waiting for him to finally speak up and he always acted like everything was fine when deep inside of me, I knew he wasn't which is why I always brought up something and was seen as wanting to fight when really no I was right this whole time when I sensed something funny.

Does he deserve me after this? Probably not for being half ass with me, but there's just something in me that wants to tell him this and possibly work it out if he sees where I'm coming from. If he was with me this whole time and considering the good genuine times we had, he had feelings but like every other person, I wasn't perfect and he just took me as I was without letting me know he had a problem with something. We could've fixed it just like how I told him what he needed to fix. It's unfair and I demand a second chance. Plus yes Im fighting over this because I do love him or else it wouldn't have affected me this much.

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    Sounds like he doesn't want to work it out or give you a second chance. I know it hurts, and seems unfair, but you can't force another person to change his or her mind. It's best if you just leave him be.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      What I'm not happy about is he didn't give me a full chance since he never communicated with me what his problems with me were. How can he be so sure about leaving me when he didn't even try to make it work? From the beginning, I've always pointed out what I didn't like of him and fortunately, he did fix some things and improved. I wish he would've done the same with me. Maybe he's just the type to take things the way they are and didn't believe he can change me which in a way yes thats a good thing but in this case, he didn't realize it would've helped. It's like "I don't like you when youre like this that and this and that, so lets breakup" great.

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      • RoseIsabella
        8 years ago

        I'm sorry, but maybe he didn't wanna give it a chance? Maybe he didn't want to change himself either? The best thing you can do now is move on with the rest of your life.

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    Sorry, but you can't refuse to be dumped, you are dumped, and of course it's unfair but you can do NOTHING about it except accept it and move on.

    You can't make him do what you want or change to be how you want him to be, you really can't, and if that's what you've been doing in the relationship you've now learnt a valuable lesson: the only person anyone change is her/himself.

    It won't always hurt this much, but if you keep focussing on unfairness and wanting to control him, it will hurt for much longer.

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  • Sara0303
    7 years ago

    It's over, move on

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    8 years ago

    Even though you love him and want to fight for another chance, it's probably not worth it with someone who won't communicate. Maybe you should forget about him and move on with someone who will actually give you a chance?

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Who ever told you life was supposed to be fair?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      That doesn't help though. I don't know if it's just me as a person but I'm determined to get what I want and in this case, I want a second chance or at least let him know how I feel.

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      • thegypsysailor
        8 years ago

        Well, good luck with that.

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