Is it normal if i think i'm old-school about my relationship?

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After so much shit to consider within my relationship and whether I should break up or not, I started looking at my parents to help make my decision more. So the fact that they have been together this long and I see that they do love each other but they have disagreements, down times, etc, makes me feel like I should stay in my relationship. I guess you can say I'm thinking old-school and you gotta just face the problems as long as the love is still there. Why run away and look for something better? There are relationships where you have to leave because clearly it toxic but there are also just hard relationships where you know you love the person and just cause things aren't going your way, doesn't mean its time to move on. I think it takes an adult to make this kind of decision and Im feeling like it can work out. A lot of people my age or generation are kind of selfish and have this sense of pride that if theyre unhappy, they're out. It's all about "making ME happy." Okay thats great you only live once, but I don't think you're ever going to find your partner in life if you keep thinking that way. There's also this saying that a lot of people cling on to..."you don't need someone to make you happy, all you need is you." Again, great advice but its so black and white now. People think okay "I don't need anyone then and if I end up dating someone and they're not making me happy then bye." Just cause someone isn't making you happy the way you want them to, doesn't mean you should leave them. I think it all comes down to if you love them or not and if you do then I think love is enough. There's also no rush in finding someone and a lot of people in my generation tend to be really anxious and on the go like relax and go with the flow.

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  • VinnyB
    8 years ago

    If facing problems and working them out is "old school" the world is in a lot of trouble.

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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    Hurt people hurt people.

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  • mlbryan44
    8 years ago

    The only question should be is whether or not they give good head. Male or female.

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  • kelili
    8 years ago

    Live and let live!
    I agree with your opinions to a large extent but I won't advice others to live their lives my way because what suits me may not suit them.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    It takes two to make a good relationship. It isn't about leaving to look for something better or staying because it is the adult thing to do.
    It's about an relationship that is self sustaining. A team, a pair of people who share a life as one.
    If you don't have the correct ingredients for a wholesome relationship (no codependency crap or pressure from one partner or the other), no matter how much you lie to yourself or wish it to be so, your relationship isn't going to work right.
    At a certain point you have to have a frank look at what you have and decide if the baggage exceeds the love. Love just isn't enough in our modern world, with all the pressures on a relationship.
    To settle for an OK relationship leads to a divorce and a single parent with kids, not a life long relationship.
    I don't think I saw one single thing relating to your affection for this guy. You talked about you, your life and ideas, your parents, but you gave us virtually no information about him. It's like he's a comfortable pet to have around. No real indication of how well the relationship was really working.
    That may be the real point you should be considering, not what other do or don't do to make their relationships work.

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