Is it normal if i think i'm doomed cause of my preferences?

So when it comes to relationships and my "type" of man, I have pretty high standards meaning...healthy and normal in today's world. First I like a man who has goals, knows what he wants and is actually doing something to get it. Along with that, someone smart and masculine. Second I like having a relationship where were both not always together, both working on our own things, yet still know we love each other we just don't have to put it out there for validation, of course affectionate and non stop sex. In a way I'm kind of describing my last relationship and I am determined to get it back with time.

But for the meantime, I feel like my standards are gonna leave me hanging because I want something so easy so simple so flexible while majority of people nowadays have these trivial matters that impact their behavior in relationships. For ex, if you guys don't talk for a few days then this a problem cause it obviously means you're not interested right? Wrong. What if we simply don't feel a need to talk every freaken day? Another ex, if he doesn't treat me like a princess and priority then leave him...why? What if he's busy and working hard to get what he wants? These aren't excuses I'm making for him this is reality. But many don't have this mindset and it MUST mean something. So far I haven't met one single guy who turns me on like my ex did because one I simply don't find them romantically attractive and two they try way too hard to impress me and that's a big turn off for me because 1) if we did get together that impression won't last and 2) clingyness is never attractive at least to a reasonable person. So you see I just want something real, common sense, simple, etc something that people today find "problematic" cause were not full of ourselves. I feel doomed cause I'm not gonna settle for something I don't want and it seems like the majority is what I don't want.