Is it normal if i really like smart and witty men?

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Is this normal for someone who's not so witty and smart? I just find it cute, adorable, sexy, and just a plain turn on. But I figure these witty, handsome men tend to go for the same type as them. I'm not like dumb but I'm not as witty as I would like to be so being with someone who's smart and has a quality sense of humor just turns me on and inspires me to be brighter and better. I don't if its me filling in a gap I am missing which sounds bad but that's totally not what Im trying to do. It's all innocent. I do have a bf and he's smart and funny and I guess you can say I captured his heart, I find it a turn on that I captured a smart, quality guy's heart. It obviously makes me feel good about myself. The only times it gets difficult is when I'm not as smart or lack wittiness.

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  • joshmatt
    8 years ago

    in other words, you get this notion only a few times in a week (or a month, year ?). how you feel about things (yourself included) will change pretty often. the best you can do, is try to stabilise your mind. focusing 24/7 on really important stuff is the best way > when I think too much about the little things, I know I have been idle for too long.

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  • Sally_Sally
    8 years ago

    Sure, this can be totally normal. Don't persecute yourself. With everything else you probably have to deal with, this is nothing.

    One thing I would mention, don't put boundaries up or set requirements for men in your life. When it comes to matters of the heart, you can't really control who you fall in love with. If the man for you turns out to be not so witty, or not so smart, but you feel so much love for him that you spend each minute of every day thinking of him and longing for him..... would you reject him just because he wasn't witty or smart?

    If you just want a pal or a friend, that's one thing. But when you're making decisions on the man to spend the rest of your life, let your heart be your guide.

    Hope this helps.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Well now that you mentioned it...what if the man I happen to love isn't the best boyfriend to me? He doesn't treat me in a bad way but he could be a better boyfriend. People ask why am I with him if hes not treating me like I deserve to be treated and I usually respond with what you basically said; Im just following my heart. I can't really explain why I am in love with him but I am. Sure if I could choose and be with anyone, Id choose the guy who has everything I want in a bf but I can't really choose when my heart is all for that person. Theres plenty of guys who are prob willing to give me more than he does but I dont want them, my heart doesn't want them, my heart wants him. What do you think? It seems like you would understand me after what you mentioned as opposed to the majority who think I should just leave him cause we're not compatible.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    What the fuck are you doing on IIN, then? I can't remember ever having encountered a more bigoted, childish and unintelligent group of folks.
    Of course, there are a few interesting and helpful contributors, but most are wasting the air they breathe. It's rather disheartening to realize that over the last 50 years how much the human race (if IIN is representative) has regressed. Moving back into their caves, isolated from one another, never living or loving, using a false persona and the thin attachment of the internet to contact each other.
    We are doomed as a race, it seems.

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    • wigz
      8 years ago

      "If you run into an asshole in the morning, you ran into an asshole. If you run into assholes all day, YOU'RE the asshole."

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