Is it normal if i only feel like myself around him?

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It's weird, I only feel myself around the guy I'm seeing but he makes me feel low. It's like I'm uncomfortable and don't feel like myself around people who make me feel positive. For example, I'll be hanging out with my guy friends especially and individually, and yeah they make me feel like secure like I can care less about what they think or do. When it comes to my dude, he puts me on check even if its not on purpose. As much as it sucks and hurts in the long run, I like it. It's like my flaws are put on blast and I can better myself. With everyone else, yeah I don't feel like my flaws are a problems and like I can do anything I want, but it's not enough to make me feel good. It's really confusing not to mention unfortunate that I feel better if I'm with my guy who makes me feel lower than him (again not on purpose) than with people who make me feel like I'm on their level or higher. What does this signify? Is this good? I also feel a sense of vulnerability with him and he's the only person especially right now that I can stand and I'll do anything for when I feel like I should be like "no you make me feel like crap and worthless, I'm leaving." Everyone else, I can bother less. But it's not he's a bad guy. I think I am mostly intimidated by him. Although he seems to really like me despite his accomplishments compared to mine, I always feel like I'm not good enough for him but I know that I can be the girl he deserves at the same time the girl I know I can be once I accept and improve my flaws. Idk why though, it gives me this sense of comfort being with someone who makes me feel with less value as opposed to people who make me feel with value.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    9 years ago

    No. No it's not normal. You can improve yourself without feeling like shit about yourself.

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  • Darkoil
    9 years ago

    Major pet peeve right there!

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  • totat.alrawi
    9 years ago

    he must respect you

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  • PieGoblin^^
    9 years ago

    I concur with the first poster, you have not described a healthy relationship. A guy who puts you down can't have that much respect for you and he'll probably end up cheating or leaving you.

    Your man is supposed to make you feel like you're the prettiest, most special, most amazing girl in the world. Not tell you your flaws so you can "better yourself". The fuck you want to better yourself for when you're meant to be in a relationship with someone who loves you the way you are?

    My boyfriend always tells me I'm his whole world and he's never met a funnier, prettier girl and I adore him for that. Imagine what a low self esteem I'd have if my own boyfriend constantly pointed out my flaws?

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    • Nokiot9
      9 years ago

      If i might play devils advocate. She put it like he was calling her out on things she doesn't like about herself and knows are flaws. Idk...maybe he is trying to help her. But you shouldn't feel inferior or whatever. I don't think that's right.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I tried to emphasize that he does NOT tell me on purpose that Im not good enough. Its all me. Whether its all in my head or it really is the truth regardless him confronting me about my flaws or not, I feel the most of myself when I'm with him. I think at this point, we have come a longer way than I thought considering my flaws, that he likes me enough to accept them and look passed them. I mentioned that I am intimidated by him because for me, he's perfect from his personality to his outlook on life and his looks are just the icing on the cake. This intimidation is what makes me feel low and worthless but what I'm most concerned about is why do I feel most comfortable in a place where I feel the lowest value? I can become this popular celebrity and not feel like myself while when I am this piece of work, I feel more myself.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    What you're describing isn't healthy regardless of whether or it's normal.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      hmm why not?

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