Is it normal if i'm being double-standard and i know it but keep doing cause?

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Okay so look Im dating my love, I love him so much and would do anything for him. Despite the differences and struggles, its all worth it. But because he is pretty much my first love, I tend to do things that I would normally not do, not even with my ex. Yes, I finally got jealous. Yes, I can be impatient when he's not texting me back, Yes, I get iffy about the thought of him going out with other girls even if they are just friends.

All of this Im not used to dealing with cause I have always been a confident girl. But there are some things that might not be fair but I feel like its an exception. For ex, I have hung out with my ex and the thought of him hanging out with his ex just makes me sad. He hasn't but the thought of that makes me sad. So why can I hang out with my ex but not him? cause with me and my ex, we broke up cause we realized we weren't for each other and we're just friends. But we are pretty close but def try to keep our distance, yet it doesn't stop how much we do get along. So if my bf found out I hang out with my ex, hell ya he would feel weird about it and just wrong but what he doesn't know is me and my ex will NEVER get back together, it was jst wrong and thats why we broke up. Idk about his ex and him, but they were together for like 5 years but it seems like they have no contact at all with each other and he knws communicating with her like I communicate with my ex is wrong.

So as much as I feel like I should stop communicating with my ex, I don't think I will cause we're really good friends. However, its not like we hang out every week, more like every other month. Like i said, we keep our distance cause although we know were good friends, we know it still makes it wrong to hang out with each other. But I do feel like shit when Im hanging out with him cause I see myself in my bfs position knowing he's hanging out with his ex like I am and I'll be dying. I do wanna stop but how can I stop being friends with someone Im really good friends with? I wish I can erase the fact he was my bf so it could be more innocent.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    9 years ago

    Holy shit you talk too much.

    Stop being a bitch.

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  • rosaflower
    9 years ago

    You're like 15 right? Because that's the only excuse for the poor grammar and carrying on about useless shit.
    You're an attention seeking, drama creating pain in the ass.

    He will break up with you if you keep this shit up.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Idc about my grammar. I didn't write it to turn it in or anything. What matters is the content and if my grammar is too poor for you to understand the content, then why bother commenting? Plus I think you should read it one more time and realize where Im coming from. You're being too harsh on what I posted about. Byeeeee

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Don't be a hypocrite.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Like I said in the last sentence in the comment above, Im not really being a hypocrite cause I would let him see his ex but would I feel weird and worried? Yeahhhh so if he were to find out about me and my ex, he would also feel suspicious regardless if I tell him its all friendly 100%. I don't blame him cause thats how I would be. So you're saying I should cut the friendship off with my ex then?

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  • Fall_leaves
    9 years ago

    Alright jealousy is normal but its definitely not your place to decide who he can or can't hangout with. If he hangs out with his ex in the future it's not your job to jump to conclusions, same with other girls. He's with you, if he wanted to be with his ex or another girl he would be. Honestly I would rather be with someone that can manage a friendship with their ex, it just shows to me that they're mature enough to handle a relationship because they didn't have a complicated or messy split.

    Has he gone into details about his ex and him and have you talked to him about your ex? There's no reason to end your friendship with him, he was your friend and if you're able to remain just friends then there isn't an issue. That also goes for your boyfriend and his ex, you have to trust him.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Ya exactly I would like to be with someone who is that mature. I think I'm mature enough to hang out w my ex and be w my bf without anything suspicious going on. But he hasn't mentioned anything about his ex, nothing even if they were together for 5 yrs. Its been like 2 and half years since her. The only time she's mentioned is when we talk about relationship stuff in general like why did they break up, which was mainly cause they were long distance and that's pretty much all i know of them. Idk if he rather not talk about it and is being in denial of his thoughts or he genuinely gas moved on which seems like it. So if he were to hang out w her, idk how I would take it. But I think I would take it in a bad way cause he never mentions her and he's never said she's like a good friend. Its like she's completely gone from his life. So if they were to hang out, I would think its to rekindle. But I haven't told him my ex and I are friends and we hang out. But I have told him about how our relationship was. Not sure how he would take it if he found out we hang out even if its very rare we do. Oh and my ex knows how much I love my bf. That's how friendly we are to each other, we can tell each other stuff like that. He's like a girlfriend lol. But yeah I'm not saying no he shoudnt hang out w his ex but if he was to even if he said just as friends like I am w my ex i'd feel weird which is why I would stop hanging out w my ex.

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