Is it normal if i like to be put in my place?

My last boyfriend was really into me and would do anything for me. Yeah it was nice but there was a point where I was like okay aren't you a little upset at me or something? A pushover is never attractive. I also never liked "gentlemen," always looked at it as fake. Then I met my ex and gave him a chance because he was nice and sweet to me but eventually I got sick of it and felt like I was taking advantage of him. I wanted someone to tell me NO and possibly grow as a better person. So my current guy does just that and I love it. There are times where I feel like he doesn't look through my flaws or appreciate the fact that I try to be better, but at the end of the day, that's why I am still here with him because there's just this good feeling where the guy putting me in my place is a turn on. I don't know to what extent though, it is time to stop. He doesn't tell me I suck consistently or something, but he could support and motivate me a little more. Regardless, I'm still here and want to make it work no matter how many times its been hurtful because I rather be disciplined then "okay here I am take it or leave bye." I don't like it when girls look for guys to appreciate all of them and if they don't, then its a no. I believe they are lying to themselves that they don't need a strong, good man just to look tough and independent. But in the end, they know deep inside they want/need one.