Is it normal if i just don't understand my bf but accept him?

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My bf is just weird and confusing lol. To some degree I like it and enjoy it cause I'm weird too but then it can get questionable. The way he shows his feelings for me can be confusing. For ex., he doesn't like me looking too sexy when we go out but he is very affectionate when its just me and him. Okay I can understand cause he doesn't want all the guy to look at me or me to look like I'm single. So that means he really does like me and cares for me and just wants me for himself which is a turn on. Yet, he can have these moments where idk if he does really like me. For ex., he'll ignore me, hell be rude to me, hell act indifferent especially in front of family even tho he invites me to spend time w him family (which I've only done with his sister). So I have confronted him about his ways and he's said he is very aware of this since his past gfs have confronted him bout the same thing of him being confusing sometimes with the way he expresses himself. And he said to just accept it cause that's how he is and he doesn't know how to show his feelings in a traditional way. So I have accepted it especially cause I love him but sometimes I'll still get confused and catch myself and say "stop you know he really does like you so brush off these small little things that bother you, its unnecessary." Is it normal to not be able to show your love even when inside you know you do have love for them? Is it normal if I still question these moments but accept them anyways?

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  • (s)aint
    9 years ago

    I can't get my friend to listen to me but maybe you will.

    There is SEVERE FUCKING SIGNS of an abusive relationship. It will only get worse.

    if you really want to give him a chance refuse to let him get his will through an INCH with you. If you are unsure if his requests are weird or not talk to friends and family about it.

    Men like this are very similar. When you obey them and spend time alone with them without any contact with your friends/family they are happy and they may even be the sweetest person you have ever met.

    But there will be more demands and requests and if you are unlucky there will be violence.

    If I put it like this: My boyfriend would object to me showing myself naked in public but as long as my ass and tits are covered I'm good.

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  • sexysonofsam
    9 years ago

    He is a domineering arse hole, leave him and find somebody who actually cares for you.

    I find it quite a turn on when other men look at my wife as I know they can only look but I can touch!

    If a person is abusive toward another when his family shows up, you can almost certainly know that he does not care about you.

    there is nothing wrong with a woman taking pride in her looks when she goes out.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    This sounds like a jealous abusive relationship in the making. If I were you I'd bail!

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  • TrinidadianBaller
    9 years ago

    White people....

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  • Freedom_
    9 years ago

    He's playing the "I'm different"card. Everything will look like he just has terrible luck and you will find every reason to give him a chance. He's playing off of your emotions. He might need you but not for the same reasons you need or want him. You can either go through it and live and learn or you can save yourself some time and trouble and just go ahead and leave him. Put him through a few tests (like the ones he probably puts you through) to be sure if you have to.

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