Is it normal if i have a huge crush (obsession) with my teacher?

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I'm an 18 y/o female still going to school, and in a few months the school year will be over. Most people in my position would be estatic. There's one big problem though. I have grown attached to my Science teacher. I can't even stay in a room with him for more than an hour without my whole body shaking from my own nerves. Some people would call this a crush, but it's probably worse. With the school year wrapping up, I can feel my heart setting itself up for emotional pain with each day that passes. I think he's the most attractive, and intelligent person ever. I am certain there is no possible way for me to get with him, (He's 30 & married,) and I don't want to pursue a romantic relationship like that. Whenever I tell friends about how much I like him, they mock me. It gets old after awhile when nobody will actually listen to how you feel. Most of the mocking comes from my "stalking" and how I express it. I do admit, memorizing your whole teacher's wardrobe is probably alarming to others. And the stalking on Facebook. And somehow getting their phone number and house address. It disturbs people, but I don't really use the information for anything harmful. I'm not a psycho that's going to start bawling if they collect a fiber from his clothes. It's just information that helps me better understand him, and get closer to him with before time runs out. I can carry on a conversation fine with him, but I'm silent as a rock during class. I honestly spend the class time looking at him. I want to know, is this a normal to you? Will I grow out of it and eventually forget about it? The constant, negative messages I get from just about everyone are making me a little pessimestic and making me feel bad about myself. But it's not like I can just stop it.
Thank you,
Lily.

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  • IMissMary
    8 years ago

    I'm a guy and I had a crush on a teacher like that, except I was in college and married and she was single. Actually we had a crush on each other, because she could not keep her eyes off me and would get caught staring at me and making mistakes.

    Years later I saw her again because she started work at the same company I worked for....we hugged, I got hard and got cold feet almost instantly. If I had pursued her maybe I would have gotten laid but love deserves more than that...

    As you can see from my name 'IMissMary' .... I once loved someone named Mary [actually I still lover her], I was married at the time and Mary was my mistress. I loved Mary like beyond words, each molecule in my body was in Love, the kind of head spinning, butter fly stomach, dizzy love. Yet the coward in me would not let me divorce my wife and be with the woman I truly loved. After 10+ years of being with Mary and a wife I decided to let Mary go because Love Deserved Better. Mary deserved a man to be 100% hers, she deserved more than me, so I had to let her go to give her that chance. It wasn't the first time I let her go....after about 2 years into our relationship I tried to let her go but she called me every single day for a whole year. She told me she called just to hear my voice on the answering machine...and I listened just to hear her voice. I took her back for 8 more years.

    I Love Mary so much.

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    • Tealights
      8 years ago

      Why did you marry your wife?

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  • Inquiry7904
    8 years ago

    Perfectly normal. You just met a guy that falls into your ideal standards of a mate. Older, wiser, intelligent, leader, compassionate. Teachers are hired and paid to behave that way. Those that do it naturally are the best at what they do.

    The issue here is that you met your ideal man too early. I hope you have college plans, even community college plans. If so, you're about to meet tons of other people, literally. Imagine a scenario where you could meet someone like your teacher in a younger body, who is single, and is also interested in you. That possibility exists after high school.

    The advantage of having this crush now is that you know what to look for in an ideal man. Many, many great women can't even do that in their 30s.

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  • TheAmputatedLegCollector
    8 years ago

    Unless you are over 18, there's nothing you can legally do about it.

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  • mysistersshadow
    8 years ago

    I don't think its abnormal I think alot of girls have crushes on teachers but as you have said its not some thing that can really happen so it sounds like it would be in your best emotional interest to start channelling your energy into what college to go to or what ever your post high school plans are.

    I think that even if your a former student he can still get in trouble if he ends up in a romantic relationship with you and you also don't want to be the reason for his marriage breaking up. Hopefully you will get past it in time and find some one more available to you but I do understand becos I like guys that are about 10 or so years older than me as well. They just seem to have things together so much better than guys my age.

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