Is it normal if i have a feeling i'll never see him again?

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I'm getting so sad because my guy, who I'm not that exclusive with, is in the middle of getting a new job and moving out. We're already long distance but he has his own place so this whole summer, we been seeing each other and whenever I'd go see him, I'd go stay at his place for the weekend. Now that he is moving out and is pretty much not that financially stable (not too terrible), all these changes are out of my control and I feel like I'm never going to see him again. Most likely, he might move back to his parents' house (about the same distance as where he is now) where his whole family is and so, even if I were to visit him there, not only would it be awkward and more intense, but we won't have time for ourselves like before. I live with my parents, thats why I always preferred to go to him cause thats when we can do our own thing (not just like that). Plus, he finally has a stable job that will pay him well enough for the meantime, so he's going to be focused on that especially he's been looking all summer. Of course I wouldn't want to be those annoying girls who always want time for them but the last thing I would want, is for us to just fade away and possibly never see each other again or at least for a really long time. The last time we saw each other, didn't end well cause of my own concerns, but we eventually made up and tried making it work. Then he fucks up again and things got weird but we talked it over the phone and things are okay. Most of it was cause he has been stressed with all these changes so I forgave him and let him know I'm there to support him. We're not mad at each other anymore, but I think one more time I complain, he's done, on top of all the stress he's going through right now. I don't want to whine again because I respect he's busy at the moment, but I also don't want him to just forget all about me or we just disconnect from what we had. Idk, but I'm pretty sad and there's nothing much I can do or tell him cause I don't want to bother him.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    "Not exclusive with"...What do you mean by that? As in you see other people even when with him? If so, that's a nice way of you trying to rephrase the word for that...Which is called cheating...And if you're doing that then good on him and the best thing for him is for yu two to fade away from one another.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      No. Don't jump to conclusions like that...that is so far off. Were not exclusive like with the whole label bf and gf but we are seeing and getting to know each other. However, its a long ass story but just to make it short, we are technically allowed to be with other people but we just naturally don't feel like it and we choose not to. So we basically are in a relationship without the label for these reasons of having other priorities. So I should just put "complicated af." Don't remind me which is why it makes me even more sad cause we been through a lot unofficially trying to see where things would go and now this obstacle. It doesn't help our progress much.

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      • Darkoil
        9 years ago

        Yeah the label for that is fuck monkeys.

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      • [Old Memory]
        9 years ago

        Sorry, my mistake.

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    Some things you can do if you really like him and want to continue the relationship:

    - Exchange phone numbers and call him. You shouldn't call him 24/7, or else you'll come off as clingy, etc.

    - Video chat with him

    - If you don't want to visit him at his parents house, you two can make arrangements to go out. It doesn't have to be everyday. For instance, you can make Saturdays your day and plan something fun.

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  • WhiteStallion
    9 years ago

    Keep things simple then. Let him be and see if he really wants you. If not, your life will be simpler.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Yeah I would keep things simple but that's the thing, its probably gonna gradually fade away and that's what I want to prevent. It sounds controlling but its more than that. I really like him and we have invested a lot that I don't want it to just go away like that. But that's what im doing right now; keeping it calm and simple but still holding on.

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