Is it normal if i hate being a girl in this case?

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Well actually in a lot of cases lol but this one's the main one I think. I hate the fact that we are too emotional and think too much. By being female, I am slowly chasing the man of my dreams away. He hasn't done anything much to hurt me when I look at the big picture or when i get asked what he has done wrong. The only thing I can think he is lagging is commitment. Surprise yes I know. But then I ask myself do I even commit? I'm not and don't want to. So not being exclusive with each other is not the problem. The problem is I want him to be honest with his feelings and if he is not saying/doing things just for the fuck of it. That's all, honesty and trust. And he has been. I think if he was lying, he would've asked me to be his gf then not commit at all. He would've flaked on things he said he would do. But he hasn't done any of that. He is keeping it casual because he doesn't want to put me as his first priority right now and thats OKAY because I get why. As much as I like him, he is not my priority either. So why bitch? It's just these strong emotions and thoughts that consume me and make me look like those jealous girls and I'm not like that. In some cases, I like feeling these emotions for him but sometimes, I blame because I'm a girl, I can over-analyze unnecessary things. For a guy, it' easy for him to look at the things in solid ways, yes or no, black or white, done bye. I really wish I can easily walk away or stay put and not feel this anxiety all the time.

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  • fratom
    9 years ago

    Always believe in yourself as being the moste wonderful beautiful girl child ever born out love, out of the womb of the woman who birthed you: Your mother, she too is beautiful all women are so stop putting yourself down, there are plenty out there who do that from time to time: So always believe in yourself: I Will: I Can: I Must because I am WORTH it: that you are for sure: so make a friend first of all with yourself and then be that friend to your friend:

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago

    You are a piece of work. Make activity oriented friendships with lots of boys. Enjoy the moment. Feel good about interaction afterwards. Stop obsessing.

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    • blacklady
      9 years ago

      i will drink the semen from your ass

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  • LifeTheRide
    9 years ago

    I sometimes think that being a man would be better. But in all honesty, being a woman has it's perks. And I couldn't see myself as the opposite sex after being a female for so long.

    I don't think you're too emotional at all. It wouldn't hurt for males to be emotional too. They're always raised to be "tough guys" but in actually, they need emotional release too.

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    • GigglyGirl
      9 years ago

      This.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Yeah and I wanna help him learn how to express himself but it's harder than I thought. Guys can be very stubborn which goes with how they're very "black or white" either their way or nothing.

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      • daydreamer394
        9 years ago

        You generalise a lot.
        Don't, please.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    9 years ago

    I really don't think it has much to do with being female. I've been with guys who have admitted to having these kind of feelings. Which guys tend to have. Guys have strong feelings.

    To me? Either he's not THAT in to you, he's really busy or he's hesitant to commit due to whatever. I'm a female and I tend to be the "black or white" one as you say, and the men I tend to find are usually the ones with the strong emotions like this (except er... not always as confused...). This "black or white" thing is the main complaint against me in most relationships of mine, anyway.

    So uh... once again, it doesn't have much to do with you being a girl. You just happen to be with a rather aloof guy.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I guess opposites do attract considering your situations and mines. I know that in the past, I've been with guys who do show emotion and I'm the one who's more hard headed. I never was into those guys anyways because they were a little too emotional and clingy for me. Finally I met this guy who I felt was my twin because I just saw these characteristics of mine in him but the ironic thing is he brought out the emotional side of me. I think one of the reasons why he was attracted to me was cause I didn't take things too seriously and I was just about good times. Now that I caught real feelings, he sees more of the emotional side of me and I just wish he could know all of this suspiciousness/insecurity from me is coming from a good place for him.
      But the fact that he hasn't ran away, I should just chill before he does and accept that because he hasn't left he is into me and I need to stop bothering him or I should just let him know that all of this is coming from a good place and to not think I'm those typical crazy girls.

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