Is it normal if i feel like i'm not on the same page as everyone else?

I have always been an outcast. Whether I was too nerdy for the kool kids or too trendy for the underdogs. I just can never find my place. Sometimes I think I'm too immature for a particular environment so I find comfort in knowing I have another option where I can be immature. So I go, and what's new? I'm too mature for those sets of people. It's kind of like a discover a different side of myself in different groups of people but a side that stands out, not a side that blends in. So it's not necessarily a good thing. Each group brings out a side of me that they don't get along with. I juggle all these groups of people I am associated with and I can't find my place? Not normal. So throughout my 22 years, I have always stood on my own. Sometimes I laugh at the fact that it is recommended to learn how to be by yourself and love yourself first blah blah and I'm like I'm sucha pro at that, people have no idea what it really feels like to be alone. Some people are alone with their lonely friends. Well at least you have friends who are on the same page as you. Not even the loners will accept me cause I'm intimidating or something or assume I'm this confident girl by the way I look but no. Give me a chance and I'll keep talking to you. As soon as I feel like someone doesn't dig me, I instantly dislike them. They have no reason to not like me. If you just don't like how I do things, well fuck it. That I can't change. See, other people find themselves in my shoes but change for others...I can't and will not do that. But I'm tired of being alone. Socializing and having a sense of belongness is critical for your well-being. If you don't believe it, look at or ask me. I'm a great example of that. Trust me I've tried going to clubs, joining groups, trying different job fields, and nothing. I graduated already thank god because school doesn't help my situation at all. Now it's on to the work field, and I am still struggling with it. So I'm literally going through an episode right now, and evaluating my future. Trying to find a way especially a job that will make me happy without feeling this anxiety all the time.

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  • wistfulmaiden

    You know that blank page they put in books for no reason at the beginning? That's the one I feel Im stuck on!

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  • Avant-Garde

    Same here. I've never quite fit in with my peers.

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  • RoseIsabella

    Get yourself a pet duck, ducks will follow you everywhere they can. Or get a doggie. I certainly don't fit in with people as a whole. I love my IIN people, and they're a blessing. Even the ones that don't believe in a God are blessings in my life.

    Keep on being true to yourself and who you are inside. There's just one of you and God doesn't make molds, cause he ain't no factory.

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    • JohnnytheSnake

      Orrrrrrr you could buy a snake... everybody loves snakes.

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      • RoseIsabella

        I'm really more into Rats. I used to keep em as pets.

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    • KeepsakeDoll

      Woah, pets are way too high maintenance.

      I suggest buying a blow doll, instead. They keep you company on those cold, lonely nights and never talk smack about your performance!

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  • Spankz

    My entire life I have felt like an outcast, but truth be told I was always popular in school. I put on this facade and pretended I was like everyone else. I dumbed myself down, I acted like I was interested in mundane things. At sleepovers I would talk about hot boys (even though I am demisexual), when what I really wanted to talk about were spiritual things, political things, intellectual things. I did not penalize my friends for thinking this way, as I know that this is the particular thinking pattern of a teenager. I still loved them, but I just constantly felt different. It was frustrating for me, to waste my days talking about silly things and have my friends brush off the things that were important to me. Every time I would bring up how I felt, or the things I liked, my friends would just tell me that I was trying too hard to be "different." So, I stopped. I compressed who I was and spent high school as a babbling idiot who talked about hot boys, who was fucking who and all the latest gossip. I was the embodiment of a popular teenage girl. I hated every second of it. Then, in 12th grade I met people that changed my life forever. It started with my now fiance. Him and I became best friends almost immediately after we met. Soon my nights were filled freedom and enjoying this boy's company. He introduced me to his friends and I felt so fulfilled. FINALLY people who made me feel worth something. These were people who embraced my interests and didn't make me feel alienated for being "different". We talked about everything -- what interested them, what interested me, gaming (which was a very big part of my life), cars (also a big part of my life), etc. My point is, some times you just have to hold out for certain people to walk into your life. I have had so many enlightening experiences with these people and I look forward to many more. They make me feel accepted and wanted and that's what every friend should make you feel like. Keep waiting for these people, they will find you!

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  • kawaiigurl

    there's a place for EVERYONE. trust me i've felt the exact same way. now as i've gotten older i can't believe the amount of people that are just like me. it also has something to do with being accepting of yourself. when you don't mind being different, people will not mind being different around you. then the bond is super strong because its not only based off small talk and cheap laughs. people will honestly gravitate towards you when you're being 100%. don't try so hard

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