Is it normal if i dont agree with addicts and sobriety?

I didn't know how to ask it so I just asked it that way. But the point is I don't understand why addicts have to be sober after going to rehab? Like I feel as if that puts more pressure on them and make them rather anxious. I guess my real question is can they ever go to being normal, social drinkers? or those that take drugs on occasion? I think it is possible but the whole Ive been sober for 90 days" makes it seem impossible. I recently watched this show where this guy blew up at his friends for keeping him away from all alcohol and drugs saying he's not a "weirdo" or that he's fine and "lets go back to normal." And I kind of saw where he was coming from. He didn't seem like an addict to me at all. He did have his stage of being addicted but cause he was going through things and eventually went to rehab but after, he did seem like he was back to normal. It just got me questioning how does this work? Why is it necessary for former addicts to be "sober" for an amount of time? Will they ever get to a normal stage? I understand the idea of relapsing and trying to prevent them from going through that but it's like when are they going to be normal? Isn't that the point? I dont find it healthy to keep hold them tight in this sobriety life. I almost feel like you're suffocating them.

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  • Whatintarnation

    Generally addicts can't handle having just one drink or two. The addicts I've known are even scared of alcohol because they're afraid they'll relapse. There is no normal for them. It's full on or sober.

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    • Yeah i can see why that's the strategy but I just can't seem to agree with it. I feel like there's a better way where you don't pressure the person to not have one sip. If you have one it's like oh no you have to start all over you ruined it. It's kind of like this bubble waiting to pop.

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      • Ellenna

        Your choice if you want to go back to whatever the drug was

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  • junkman1981

    If you are a real alcoholic, with a physiological dependency on alcohol, you cannot go back to being a "social drinker" because you never were that way, or if you were, it was too long ago.

    You cannot have 1 or 2 drinks. You just keep drinking. You need it like you need food or water.

    So the only thing safe is zero.

    Now, if you were just an abuser of alcohol, like a binge drinker, yes, you might be able to pull it off.

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  • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk

    i dont thinka addiction as addiction

    i thinks of it as an ocd person obsessed with gittin fucked up

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  • Terence_the_viking

    It is very hard to kick any habbit and taking a little bit of something may bring all those feelings back the feelings that put you in this situation. So yeah it does make sense going cold turkey.

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  • deepdankstickygoo

    What are you? White knuckling it right meow? Or are you trying to make more little justifications in your head for all the reasons why you are not an addict and how you can someday go back to "using every once in awhile......"

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    • I'm not an addict this is just an opinion of mine. I'm curious about a lot of things and this is one of them. Damn people jump to conclusions like nothing these days

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  • mysistersshadow

    I think the concern is that 1 drink will lead to 2 and 2 to 3 and so on until they are back in addiction trouble. I think the better solution is not to go to rehab in the 1st place rehab is for quitters.

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    • I mean I don't disagree with going to rehab. I actually think it's a good idea but of course as last resort. What i don't agree on is the aftermath about trying to be sober for an amount of time. I get it's because it could lead to relapse but I feel like there's a better way.

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      • Eat.My.Fuck

        I firmly disagree with going to rehab. It won't change anything and the methods they use have been proven to be ineffective and archaic. You still obviously want to get high. You're going to do what you want and you'll learn what works for you and what doesn't. Drugs affect everyone differently.

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        • True I can see people losing their minds and therefore relying on drugs to save them. You can't blame them.

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          • Soapy_Testicles

            What you have to do is make your best effort to control your own impulses and keep yourself honest. Rehab definitely won't do that for you, although it will sell itself as doing that.

            I have to drink at certain times. I just have to do it. If marijuana was legal where I live (hopefully one day) I would smoke that also. I'm not dysfunctional at all as I work a job and support myself. I can't imagine anyone going through life completely denying themselves these substances. Living a life of complete sobriety sounds like absolute torture, I would not want a long life if I was forced to do that.

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            • Do you feel like being sober consecutively for a specific amount of time helps? or does that make you feel more anxious?

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      • mysistersshadow

        Typically the only way ppl keep from relapsing is absolute abstinence thats the path your suppose to walk if you want to be normal. Me I rather die completely out of my mind on a cocktail of drugs and alcohol than live sober so to each there own I guess.

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      • Ellenna

        If you have a better way to beat addiction than the experts tried and true methods, please let the world know, but in the meantime you're looking for an excuse to fall off the wagon, which is common for addicts, denial and self-deception being an integral part of addiction

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        • Um I'm not an addict lol This is just an opinion of mine I've had for a while and I wanted to see what others think

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          • Ellenna

            Well keep your ill-informed opinions away from people who are trying to maintain sobriety in case you undermine their resolve

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  • thegypsysailor

    Wow. Dumb.

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    • Thanks for judging. Typical.

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      • thegypsysailor

        Wow, even dumber!

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