Is it normal if i don't want to have a boyfriend unless we'll get married?
I can't stand short-term relationships, or there isn't even such a thing. To me, relationships are supposed be because of that commitment you naturally feel to the other person and because you do see a future, not just for fun. If you like someone and enjoy their company and that's it, why bother ruining that with rules and codes that you have to supposedly follow in order for your relationship to be successful? If there isn't a future, then what's the point?! You can be with them and have a good time without being in a relationship. If it's because of security that you want to get in one, then you're stupid. You're obviously not ready to share yourself with someone else if you don't feel comfortable with being by yourself. So personally, it takes a while for me to officially be with someone because I have to know who they are, not just know that I like them and find out who they really are DURING our relationship, oh hell no. But these guys just want to be in a relationship already and I'm just like, okay we're enjoying each other's company so do you see me as a potential wife? (Im 20 by the way). I don't want to ask them that because obviously that'll scare them away and because I don't mean to ask that question because I care, I'm just asking to test his views on what he thinks he wants. Of course he'll say, "uhh I don't know? I guess..." just to make me feel better but really he means to say no. So why a relationship? Why can we just stay how we are now?
With that being said, I do not plan on getting married any time soon so Im not looking for a relationship right now. However, I am dating around and currently with this guy unofficially, who keeps begging me to be his gf but Im like aren't we together like a couple in a way? What more do you want? I don't get it. Like I said, its probably that security, but ugh can't we just have fun and be free from rules? I think he'd like that. Wouldn't guys like that? considering, they hate the clingy, overprotective, jealous , psycho gf and perhaps vice versa. We're having fun and so far no major arguments but if we do run into some later, I feel that it won't be such a controversy if we're not bf and gf. If we are together as a couple, it seems like something I wouldn't be able to erase or ignore because it was part of a relationship, something serious. On the other hand, if we're still single and free, we can just say oh it didn't work out yah it sucks womp, so on to the next, no big deal (depends on your circumstances but generally).