Is it normal if i don't want to date someone cause of high school?

Really strangely enough, my old and actually first major crush and I have been talking a lot lately. I was crazy about him in the beginning that I was set. He didn't know it but it was set that I was going to marry him. I knew after HS, we would go our separate ways you know into college and life but that didn't stop me from believing us in the future. Throughout it all, just two small special things happened that meant a lot to me; he touched my shoulder in sucha gentle way and about three yrs later, he finally kissed me. But that was it. After Hs though, life happened and now its been a few years since and we're talking again, but just as acquaintances. However, its crazy to believe that me and him finally have a chance to pursue something real. Were more mature and free and talking to each other more often than I would have ever imagined. In a way, I was right back then. Life would happen and we would come into each other's lives again eventually. I would completely go for it except one thing: high school. You know high school sucks, and everyone knows each other, the drama, the nosiness, the tension, the public, everything I despise. I prefer privacy and something no one knows about or has a say about. My last bf was from college so coming back, all my old friends and everyone else didn't know anything of him so it was just me and him and I loved it. With my old crush, everyone knows us, there's no privacy. Of course, few years have passed by, but everyone always has something to say. I'm scared that if we were to date, stupid crap like that will get in the way and ruin it. If he was fresh and someone new, I'd go for it.

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  • mysistersshadow

    You can't seriously be considering not taking an opportunity becos of other ppl that aren't in the relationship... right?

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    • Well in a way, they think they are involved in my relationship when theyre not but because of all the drama and nosiness. I know theyre not really a part of it, but they think they are and pple are stubborn. Theres no way in changing their minds. I just dont want nothing outside to break us and I feel like he is kind of weak, to believe something out side of the relationship and as for me, well yeah I'm scared to find something out about him from someone who possibly knows more or who knows it just a rumor so you see, I dont want to be in question all the time

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      • mysistersshadow

        I guess I find it hard to relate becos I didn't keep in touch with anyone from college except maybe 3 ppl and no one from high school. I can't imagine all those insecure drama queen bitches attempting to interfere with how I live my life. I've also learned and grown alot in the last year and even more in the last few months due to a wonderful mentor that does what he wants and doesn't let ppl get in the way of his goals. He's really helped me to find my own inner strength and also a few ppl on this site have been encouraging and helpful to.

        I just can't imagine going back to living how I use to always trying to please everyone and it never working not even to please myself. Now I make sure I get what I want and if other ppl like it great if they don't sorry it's not your life.

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  • Tealights

    You're overthinking it.

    Gossip is EVERYWHERE! At work, among family, at school... There's no escaping it. You simply just learn to live with it, and ignore people or find a way around it (e.g. Making romantic dates in each others' apartments, going to out of state amusement parks, road trips, etc).

    For heavens sake, go for it!! Because years from now, you're going to hate yourself for letting something as trivial as gossip keep you from a chance at love. Good luck!

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    • Theres no gossip like high school though. Everyone literally thinks they know each other and they don't. Theres no way convincing people though or else I'd try.

      I will honestly give it a few more years. We came back into each others lives so if its really meant to be, we will stay in touch. But in the end, I just don't want that to break us. Like i said, my last relationship was free. No one or nothing can break us except me or him. Thats how it should be. In this case, people will get involved and I just dont like that and fear it will break us.

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  • flamer180

    Stop caring what other people think. Theres ALWAYS going to be criticism.

    You shouldnt be worried about what they say. But if you love this guy you should definately want to get back with him again :)

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