Is it normal if i don't want to be with someone because they're dirty?

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Its not even a big deal because I don't like this guy that much but I just think he's cute and he gives me affection which I love and which is why its hard to stay away from him. BUT he's really dirty lol or just not safe. I mean he smokes 24/7 already a turn-off that stops me from making out with him like I wish I could, his apartment is dirty, he seems like he gets around, and I just don't wanna risk getting an STD or anything! He went down on me, I let him but just that. Then what got me even more worried is he tried sticking it in without even mentioning a condom like ew? You don't even consider it? That says a lot. I wish he wasn't all of these things because personality wise he does seem like a cool guy and like I said before, he gives me good affection which can be better if he wasn't "dirty" lol. So its like this wall stopping from me and I think that's the last of it. I don't how to tell him we shouldn't give each other affection anymore but we can still hang out. I think he'll understand but he'll try to take advantage of me when we're drinking or something. Honestly when I come out of his place, I feel poisoned.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    10 years ago

    A little dirt don't hurt.

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  • Geneva5
    10 years ago

    This is not normal.

    You sound really uptight.

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  • quentari
    10 years ago

    first getting an STD test would be advisable. Even you. You can contract certain STD's from receiving oral sex so that wasn't the best idea.

    Honestly if he's the type of person to try and take advantage of you when your drunk I'd stay far away from him, it sounds like the bad far outweighs the good

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      It does it's completely common sense. It was just a thought and something I haven't gone through. He scares me lol in terms of cleanliness and stuff. So yeah I am gonna stay away but I have to tell him first we can just be friends. I don't want him to think I have lead him on though especially for what he has done for me including my bday. If it wasnt for him, I wouldn't have had sucha blast. He made a lot of things happen when I doubted him. I don't know if its because he's that giving type of person, or he did it all thinking he'd get something in return for sure (p*ssy), or he actually does like me and wanted to treat me. Now if he did it cause he's just that type of giving person, its still weird cause I don't know him that well for him to do that for me. He's my friend's friend and we've all hung out I guess like 4 times so I don't know what were his intentions.

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      • quentari
        10 years ago

        I'd say backing off until you know what it is he might be expecting from you is a good idea :) If he was just being nice then hey you will have made a good friend, if he was expecting more then at least you will know and you can distance yourself from someone who just wants to use you :)

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