Is it normal if i don't like that i'm anti-social?

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I think I'm anti-social but not sure. I like meeting people and talking to them, going out, hanging out, etc. When Im alone for a long period of time, I get frustrated cause I wish I was out with friends or something. But then when I have the chance to mingle and make friends, I get anti-social. Its like I guess I dont want what I think I want? Lets say like right now Im alone, so I want to go out with friends. Someone texts me and heres my chance to hang out w a group of friends so I go and hang out with them and all I wanna do is go back home and be alone again. I don't get it. I guess I dont know what I want? I do like being alone, I like peace, relaxation, do what i want, no one to tell me what to do or bother me, etc. But yes it does get "lonely" so I want to go out w friends but once that happens, I was wrong and I wanna go back to my own space. What do I do in my case? Is this normal?

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    You are not anti-social. Anti-social behavior means criminal behavior. You're misusing the term. It does sound like you have some anxiety issues, though. I would focus on your anxiety.

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  • 53739
    8 years ago

    It sounds like you are really unsure of yourself and feel like you're being judged by your friends. What you just described is normal, I would guess that a lot of people feel similar to you. I'm even like that although I don't have many friends but I do enjoy being in public or social situations as long as I'm not expected to talk, then I get nervous and feel like people are judging me. So my main issue is that even though I like to be around people, I don't like being judged because that makes me feel unnatural and I just can't relax and be myself. And when I'm alone I am always myself and super cool and relaxed, but I wish I could share it with someone.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Yeah thats also how I am. As soon as I am put on blast, my confidence goes down. But as long as I'm not being put on blast, I'm confident as hell lol. Is that okay? Is that even real confidence?

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    8 years ago

    You sound more like an introvert than someone who is anti-social.
    Anti-social is about the same as "anti-people". Many of them often become violent criminals.
    Introverts enjoy peace, quiet and solitude. Although they may enjoy the company of others as the majority of humans do (we ARE social animals), it can be far more taxing than it is worth more often than not.

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    Also, you probably need to be more assertive. That's just what I'm getting from your post.

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  • PurpleHeart
    8 years ago

    yeah at school im soooooooooooo quiet i dont answer a thing but i talk alot with my friends at home outdoors and i can talk to anyone and have no problem. soo i guess im weird too

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    • kirakirakira
      8 years ago

      Nein

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