Is it normal if i don't know what i want?

I am 27 years old, just graduated college and now on the search for my job and future. Yet I've been seeing this girl for pretty much my whole last year in college and more. I do like her but I know she is so stressed cause of me for the reason I don't want a relationship right now. With that comes me not texting her as much as she wants, me not expressing my feelings lik she says I don't, and idk what else that I dont realise Im doin but she says I am. We have stopped talking a few times cause we realised it was too much stressed for the both of us but eventually I do contact her because we have invested a lot of time together that when I do something, I think of her and have to include her in it. She says its okay to not be ina relationship right now but she still asking for more communication. I can't give it to her as much as I would like to. So I like her but dnt want a relationship and dnt want to lose but dnt want to cause her more stress so I feel like I should let her go. I thought it would be easy to make a decision but I guess not. IIN? what does this mean? What do I do?