Is it normal if i don't feel like i belong?

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It sounds depressing but thats cause it is lol. But today I came to the realization...why don't I feel like I belong? I wish I did belong somewhere. You know I'm out of school already so its not like I can volunteer at a club or something but I did and didn't like it. Then in the real world, there are all these trends going on; fitness, fashion, etc. Majority of people choose one of those trends and are vulnerable to it and at the end, they become a part of it. I'm like "I like fitness though why don't I succumb to the whole fitness world going on right now?" "I like fashion why don't I succumb to that world?" It's cause I refuse to be a part of the trend. That's why I don't belong anywhere. I don't like to follow trends as much as I like that subject. Once it becomes a trend, it turns me off and makes me not want to join the rest. In other words, I just don't conform to society. If I try to act like a part of society, its obvious I'm being fake. So idk if not feeling like I belong somewhere is a bad or good thing. Pros are yeah I'm different whether you like it or not and I'm authentic. Cons are I'm alone. Yeah I have friends but like divided friends and they don't live near me. Plus I have a bf but he's long distance and he's a punk so I still feel alone. Not sure what to do in order to feel satisfied and happy with my life. To be honest, I am happy but unfortunately, I have to deal with people and society in the real world and that's when I realize I need to change something about my life. If it wasn't for people or society, I'd be pretty content.

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  • Tommythecat.
    9 years ago

    People like you make up half of society, you are not alone.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I know there's people like me but sometimes its hard to believe. Even outcasts find a group of outcasts they can hang out with. Idk...maybe I'm just a different breed...which I don't mind but it can mess with me sometimes.

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      • Tommythecat.
        8 years ago

        Ofcourse, but even those outcasts have those feelings within the group they are in. I usually feel pretty lonely even when surrounded by people.

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  • hokisgurl
    9 years ago

    Find a hobby or something you can get lost in and feel great about yourself afterwards .I struggled with what you've described . Right now I'm doin something like photography its harder doin it now with a kid if I was uncommitted it be a whole lot better I could go where I want when I want and not worry about bringing a kid along I wish I did photography before my kid but oh well you live and learn good luck to you

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Even though I'm happy that I'm real and proud of myself every single time I walk away from a trend, I still wish to belong to somewhere. I truly haven't found something I have a gift for and where I can also share it with others. But I have to somehow let lose and be vulnerable if I want to "blend in" and not in a bad way like conforming but just to feel as if I am a part of something cause it can get lonely sometimes no matter how happy I am with just me, myself and I.

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  • theseeker
    9 years ago

    I don't feel like I belong either, but you shouldn't be ashamed of it. Be proud of your beliefs. The thing is I don't really want to belong into this society because the way I see it no matter how much you want to dye your hair blonde and put fake eyes in, or follow an anorexic standard of beauty, or no matter how many diamonds you buy from people who exploit others brutally to get them, no matter what kind of car you drive or what kind of fancy clothes you put on, etc., the only thing that really proves is you’re losing what makes you…you! That will never be me! I'd rather be proud of what I am, rather than desperately trying to be something I'm really not, just to fit in. And whether we want to accept it or not, that's the problem with this culture or I should say lack of culture.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Yeah same here. I rather be me and be happy but when it comes to having no choice and deal with the real world, that's when it gets to me. See I'm not trying to hide who I am and live a secret life. I want a life and I have goals and a bucket list to accomplish but it just seems like society gets in the way and I can't accomplish those dreams by just being me. Its like I can't get passed this boundary line without sucking up and conforming just a little. Also what doesn't help is I do care what others think of me (I know really bad) but to a certain extent. I just wanna feel like I'm a part of something and not standing alone.

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      • theseeker
        9 years ago

        I can relate to what you're saying, but it's hard to completely understand because it depends on what your goals are I guess. I think the reality is you can't keep it real all the time. Everybody has to "fake it" at least a little whether they like it or not because you still have to work within the system. Just don't let it change you, if you know what I'm saying. In many cases it changes people. However, I believe it's possible to still work within the system and support your own beliefs, but it depends.

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  • Freedom_
    9 years ago

    You've come to come to the right place. *Creepy voice* You belong with us!

    A few of us are bound to be millionaires someday so I'm thinking we purchase an exclusive apartment building that we call the IIN Inn. Only users of 3 years or more aloud. Platinum membership.

    You can check out any time you like, but you can never leave.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    I have lived outside society almost my whole life. I have not lived ashore since 1969. I don't have a residential address and I needed special dispensation from the postmaster general to have my mail forwarded from my PO Box for more than a tear. I cannot be reached by phone most of the time, even in an emergency.
    The government hates me; the driver's license people have a non existent address on my dl, because I have no residence and they won't put my PO Box on it. My car is an inflatable Zodiac. In actual point of fact, if you want to send me a package it will cost about us$80.00 and take three weeks to reach me.
    You too can be a bohemian if you wish, but let me warn you, it is not easy (being green) when you do not conform to any of the government's little boxes.

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