Is it normal if i always end up liking the ones that don't like me as much?

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I thought it was just one guy but this has been happening often lately. There are a few guys who like me and I don't like any of them. And there is nothing wrong with them. They're really nice, cute guys who make the effort to talk to me and hang out with me. But I guess thats just not enough is it. Right now, I like someone who doesn't show the same effort as the guys who do like me. But I like him so much. At first I thought it was me who liked the fact they didn't like me so it was like a challenge but now liking this guy makes me realize it wasn't the challenge that made me have feelings...its just unfortunate that I end up having feelings for those who don't like me as much. I really wish I can like the guys who make all the effort because it would be nice. But I don't! This guy that I am so into, we've hooked up, we've gone out, spent the day together, partied together, but for some reason I don't feel like he likes me. So far the only two cues that tell me he likes me was a friend of mine told me he likes me cause he keeps asking for me and she's random so I felt like it was real and the second cue was he was cooking for me the other night. I was so shocked. That does consist a lot of effort so I was pretty happy that night even though I couldn't make it because of something so unfortunate that came up. I was like wow the first time he makes an initiative I don't come through. Is this a sign? I don't know. But those are the only cues I have and what brings me back to the thought he doesn't like me as much is how he acts so casual when we see each other. Like it takes him a while to make a move or express himself. He has admitted he doesn't kno how to express himself but still, he pointed out that if a guy likes you he will meet you half way. So I think if he did like me, he wouldnt make his flaw of not expressing himself an excuse. So I go to the guys that do like me particularly one but it is sucha bummer I don't like him. You can't make yourself have feelings for someone. Its never healthy.

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  • AbnormallyAwesome
    10 years ago

    He likes you.
    Common girl, he spends a lot of time with you, he cooks for you and he even talks to you about his feelings!
    If that's not "making an effort" then I really wonder what those other guys did.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Ya the cooking part really hits me when I am having doubts. But why does he act so casual when he sees me!? It makes thing awkward, confusing, like those special moments we've had never happened. Idc how shy he is...if he likes me he'll make sure I stay around.

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      • AbnormallyAwesome
        10 years ago

        Well, if you like him and he doesen't make a move, maybe you should make one.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          10 years ago

          I said we have gone out and hooked up. I normally am the one to initiate a move when were together. If I don't, nothing would happen. Just the other night I bumped into him and Im proud of myself for doing this; rather than doing the usual saying lets have something with people at your place (eventually leading to us spending a night) I simply asked if he knows of a party or something and he didnt know and I said okay bye. It felt so good and Im sure he was shocked I wasn't vulnerable like the usual.
          But if he truly likes me, he's lucky I like him so much that I am not gonna give up. I still wanna talk to him. Or its not like I can help myself not to lol.

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  • Holzman_67
    10 years ago

    It's been the hardest thing as a guy, to show no interest in the girl you're interested in. Once she knows you're interested, you're history.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Wait don't you mean its been the hardest thing as a guy to SHOW INTEREST in the girl they are interested in?
      Or just elaborate on what you meant...

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      • AbnormallyAwesome
        10 years ago

        I know what he means. To us guys it seems as if girls are only interested in the men that don't care about them. So when we like a girl we try not to show it and be cold and distant hoping it will make us look cool.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          10 years ago

          Hmmm that hasn't crossed my mind and it actually makes me feel better. Cause he does hold back and I'm guessing doesn't want to get hurt? or is just simply shy?
          So you're a guy? Can you answer how far does a guy go to just have sex with a girl? Does he actually cook for her and spend the day with her all for p*ssy? Ive heard some crazy things but you tell me. Or are those signs of more than just wanting to have sex?

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          • AbnormallyAwesome
            10 years ago

            Well, that really depends on his character and his principles. I don't know him and not all men are the same. But I think since you, as you said above, are usually the one taking the initiative, I'm guessing it's about more then sex. If that was all he wanted he probably could have gotten it way faster (no offense). I mean yes, some people will do a lot for a one night stand, but only when the other person seems "hard to get". But he doesen't sound like the hunter type to me (I don't think those cook).
            How long do you know him? You have to know something about his previous sex life.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              10 years ago

              At first I wasn't playing hard to get. I was just being real with my feelings and yes he actually made the first move. We didn't have sex but he kissed and fingered me and that night was so magical. But ever since, its me who has initiated the moves. So now I am playing hard to get here and there but I feel like I would slowly lose him since yeah he is not the "hunter type." So he wouldn't chase me.
              I guess you can say its gonna be three months and were together every weekend. Well he doesn't eat out and Ive asked him why and he said he does it if hes in "the moment" so I asked so with your ex gf you have? and he kinda hesitated but said yes...so I don't know if he was lying or if he has ever done it at all. Other than that, I love how he knows what to do during sex. He takes control and I get so turned on just thinking I am with the guy I am so infatuated with right now. I believe the last time we had sex which was this past friday was the best so far. Part of it was because I had those thoughts in my head.

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    10 years ago

    Yeah the girls I like never like me back either.

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  • Energy
    10 years ago

    Ohhhhh my god he cooks for you!??? That's a miracle!

    But no really, cooking is fun as fuck. Can you blame him?

    Overall it does sound like he likes you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Ya it makes me feel good that Im getting positive answers from this :) Like I said, I really like him so I can't and won't give up :)

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