Is it normal if he's indecisive like this?

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I don't get my dude, lets call him RVCA. He hit on me first when i had a bf and I told him as soon as he tried to kiss me that I had a one. Yet, we still texted each other and met up at parties just for fun. Eventually, because my bf and I were already rocky, we broke up and RVCA kinda did make it easier for me to break it up with my ex. I think it was the final push that I needed. We became friends with benefits although, I was in love with him the sec I met him. But cause I was fresh off a relationship, I wasn't looking for anything serious. However, we got closer emotionally. He started taking me out rather than just hitting me up for parties. Of course I was enjoying it, I was so into him. I couldn't help my feelings for him that I just went along with everything he did for me like take me out, let me stay over, watch movies, have sex, etc. Then it just became a challenge. I felt like I was all for him that he didn't need to make the effort anymore like he was in the beginning. This went on for a really long time. Then I decided to just play hard to get and maybe he'll put more effort again since I found out that yeah guys like the chase like girls do every once in a while. But he began to point out that I was being unappreciative. I got so turned off when he said that because I was appreciating everything until he started acting indifferent with me. And now that I got less clingy so he can want me again, he thinks I'm not appreciating his efforts. Its like do you like it when I go play hard to get or when I'm all there for you? Then as soon as go back to being appreciative, I feel like he takes advantage of it and thinks he doesn't need to do anything more. I don't think he's a bad guy, so I doubt he's being like manipulative. But its more like he's indecisive or clueless and doesn't see that Im always there for him. Plus, we're not exclusive yet, but, he has told me that he would prefer me to not act like sucha party girl so I did calm down a little only because I really like him. He didn't demand it but he said he would prefer it. But he still doesn't want to make it official. Like he has feelings but he doesn't know what to do with them.

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  • shuggy-chan
    9 years ago

    Idk shat people want to tell me all this when they obviously need to tell this to the other party involved. Go have a serious heart to heart and communicate how u feel. Cause if he is clueless like u say then if he knows the problem maybe it can be worked on

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  • CountessDouche
    9 years ago

    Why are you playing stupid mind games instead of just being honest? You can't trick people into giving you what you need in a relationship by "playing hard to get." If he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you, no amount of manipulation will change that; in fact it will probably have the opposite effect...I certainly wouldn't want anything to do with someone who pulled that stupid shit.

    Just be honest with him. If he won't give you what you need, then move on and find someone else who will. It's not that complicated.

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    • disthing
      9 years ago

      All of this.

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  • WhiteStallion
    9 years ago

    I think its normal since you're also indecisive.

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  • DannyKanes
    9 years ago

    RVCA? Why didn't you call him something like John?

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  • missy911
    9 years ago

    Umm, I think you two need to do stuff, flea-market, garage-sailing, monster-truck rally, something that you do together and without a posse of friends. Couple stuff. Look at the weekend section of a newspaper and see what is coming up in 2 or 3 weeks time and try and find something that you can go to together. Sometimes you will have to indulge his interests and sometime he should do the same for you.

    If you were birds, then right now you are two birds that are nesting together but you are not foraging together; and that won't work.

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