Is it normal if he doesn't like me drunk anymore?

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What does it mean when the person you're with just starts getting turned off when you drink and how u behave? My guy and I don't drink and party like we used to but I guess because when we did, we just met. We would hang out, go to kickbacks, drink and chill and he didn't mind. But eventually he started not liking how I am when I get drunk and he would confront me about it. He would tell me "i dnt think we should drink together anymore" or "i don't like it when you're drunk." The way I see it is real feelings finally grew and now he just sort of cares even if hes not bf. I don't get it tho because the way we met was drunk so I would think he does like who I am when I drink or else we would have probably never talked. But I do have to admit I also dnt like it when he drinks now because the last few times he has w me, he's different like he would ignore me which is different from the drunk version I first met, or maybe because now I also care, i think too much of it. Overall, I see it as a good thing tho cause it just means our feelings are real and we actually care who were involved with when drunk otherwise, we would let each other be cause we don't give a damm. But I do miss it when we just started to get to know each other and could drink and just had fun. That is part of how we got closer and liked each other.

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    I hate being around people who are drunk too. There is something you do when you're drunk that bothers him. When you drink, do you not know moderation? Do you get wild when you're drunk? If you care about him and want your relationship to work out, never drink around him. It's so easy.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Yeah I mean I am a little wild but not in a bad way, just too social and aggressive but what i tried pointing out on my post is that's how he met me. So obviously if he was turned off by how I am drunk, he would have not approached me. Not only how we met, but how we were for a while. So that's why I feel like there's some sort of serious feeling involved now, which makes me feel good. But I still miss it like it was in the beginning, carefree.

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      • Ellenna
        9 years ago

        He's changed his attitude to drunks, that's all, simple or maybe you're drinking more now?

        Doesn't everyone's feeling change from how we are at the start of a relationship? It's not gonna stay set in stone for ever, impossible and boring.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Do you act obnoxious when you're drunk? Do you fall down and vomit on a regular basis?

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    • [Old Memory]
      9 years ago

      Agree. Drinking with someone who cannot handle it sucks out the fun and turns drinking into babysitting.

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      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago

        Precisely, if it's only happened once or twice that's one thing, but when routine occurrence I have to disengage myself from such a person.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Yes, I am obnoxious when I get drunk but I don't throw up. A little clumsy yes but i think what he doesn't like is I can get very aggressive. But regardless of how I get, I don't understand because that's how he met me and first started talking to me. To be honest, I'm really fun when i drink. I'm social, I talk to everyone, etc, so I feel like he wants to cool it down now and not act so idk...single? I'm not saying I act like a slut, but I know it looks like I have no one to control me cause I'll talk to everyone to just have a good time.

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      • Ellenna
        9 years ago

        So you're obnoxious, clumsy and aggressive when you're drunk and you're wondering why he doesn't like you drinking?

        And I've got news for you, I'll bet you're nothing like "really fun" and everyone doesn't really want you talking to them - that's the alcohol believing that!

        Ever thought of AA?

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      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago

        Yeah, I dunno about your man, but for me if someone does that more than once or twice I'm thinking it's too much trouble for me.

        I don't feel like being a babysitter or a chauffeur.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          Yeah thats probably how he feels. He doesn't wanna deal with any kind of drama. If I tell him "Im not gonna stop so deal with it," he will walk away and not give a sh*t. But good thing I don't care that much about drinking or partying...I care more about us and plus, it saves me from looking ratchet and sloppy. I'm just confused as to why he cares now unlike before but I think it is because we have gotten more intimate as opposed to just friends with benefits.

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    • thegypsysailor
      9 years ago

      Drinking is no problem. I drink, I get drunk, I fall down, No problem.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    It sucks growing up, huh?

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  • Fleetline
    9 years ago

    Its possible hes matured and has out grown you. You're still a wild party animal and he is settling down a little bit. I think this is a relationship not meant to be in the long run. You're at different places in the maturity curve. You might be better off as just friends and let the rest go.

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  • Ellenna
    9 years ago

    It is possible to have fun without getting drunk or in fact without drinking at all, but a that's skill which has to be learned if a person has always relied on alcohol to have a good time and the person needs to consciously decide not to be controlled by the alcohol

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  • deepthought33
    9 years ago

    Now that you two are involved your behavior went from 'fun' to 'embarrassing' is my guess. Just spread your drinks out more or switch to something non alcoholic after a couple.

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  • Blue_Velvet
    9 years ago

    Do you two argue when you're drunk? cause that is a good reason of not to get drunk together.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      No we don't argue when we're drunk. if we do argue, its because I drank or did something in particular when i was drunk. Like this one night, supposedly a drank a whole bottle of vodka w a friend and it was his roommate's. So he found out about it and got a little upset that I can be aggressive sometimes. Other than that, he just looks at me weird when I'm having fun because I guess he is involved with me now and has gained some real feelings. That's what I think because we used to have fun drinking and partying when we just started hanging out.

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      • Ellenna
        9 years ago

        "Supposedly"? Don't you know? If so, you have a problem with alcohol and that aggression you keep mentioning but not describing. Do you verbally or physically abuse people, or what? Assuming you remember .......

        As well as real feelings, I think he's gained a deeper understanding of how much alcohol affects you and he just doesn't like it ........ What's gonna win with you? Him or the drink? Because I've been in this situation with people addicted to alcohol and/or other drugs, and it's like there's a third person in the relationship and no-one can change that until the addict wants to.

        Your choice ........

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  • cumm_guzzlah
    9 years ago

    is he the only person that has ever said that? have other people said they don't like you drinking? If he's not the only one, all likelihood he has a point. Otherwise it's possible he wants to be a controlling prick.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Nah, like people/friends consider me fun and out there when i drink, in a good way. That's how he met me so that's why if he liked me drunk then, how come not anymore? It bothers him. It's like now because we are involved with each other, we represent each other. so like u said, he could be acting a little controlling because now real feelings are involved and he just cares. Sucks because we can't have fun and drink like before, but then it feels cool to know that he actually cares now, otherwise, he would just let me be wildly drunk by myself.

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